Taking Good Shots: Love Scenes

Some tips and tricks for shooting love/sex scenes along with a resource I find useful for this kind of writing.

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I say this all the time but I’ll say it again for good measure — I am in no way an expert on photography. In fact, I’ve never taken any classes or read any technical books on the subject. I am, however, a HUGE fan of good cinematography and I spend a great deal of time not only watching TV but paying close attention to things like camera angles, scene set ups, even the choice in music for scene transitions. I’ve also spent the last few years writing and posting sim stories which rely heavily on visual storytelling. With that being said, I try to take what I’ve learned from all this media I’ve consumed and use some of the same techniques in the visual part of my own stories (which I hope is more apparent in my newer stories, lol). I’m hoping that by sharing the things I keep in mind while “filming”, in this tutorial, I can help someone else who isn’t quite sure where to get started with love scenes — and by love scenes — I mean sex scenes! My favorite kind of scenes to shoot!

Why are they my favorite, you may ask? Because love scenes are usually about more than just the act of sex itself and serve some type of narrative purpose (ie: emotional vulnerability of one/both of the characters, the shift in their relationship triggered by this act, etc…) that you may not have gotten to portray had we skipped over it. Being able to show these intimate parts of our characters, gives us as writers/directors so much to work with that can really push our stories to the next level!

Now, I’m not saying that all love scenes have to serve as some huge life altering event in a story, I mean… sometimes people have sex just because… it’s fun, lol, but even if they aren’t of the world-shattering-variety, I think the things we go over here will still be useful.

Things used in this tutorial:

Reshade 4.8.2
Summer Pop Reshade Preset by me
Wicked Whims by Turbodriver (18+)
Wicked Whims Animations by KikiChain (18+)
Kiss Me II Pose by Sciophobis

Just in case you missed the warning at the top, this post contains images/content that Google does not approve of, so to read the full tutorial, click here.

Additional Information

If you would like to learn more about writing and filming sex scenes, check out this site. They provide some really useful information along with examples!

And that concludes our tutorial for the day. I hope this helps you make your next love scene an awesome one!


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Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims: Which is Right for You?

Need help deciding whether Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims is right for you? Keep reading to see how the two mods differ from each other.

Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims: Which is Right for You? Sims 4

This article is all about mods. If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Wicked Whims (18+) and Wonderful Whims are both amazing mods that provide game changing features for sims’ personalities and relationships. While they’re both similar at the core, there are some notable differences that may leave you wondering which one is right for you and your game. While both mods provide an Attractiveness System (think turn ons and turn offs but even more detailed than you could’ve ever imagined), Menstrual, Pregnancy and Birth Control Systems as well as Personality and Impression Systems — there are a few ways that each mod handles these things differently which will ultimately determine which one is right for you. To help make this decision a little easier, I’ll outline these things below:

Wicked Whims (18+)

  • Configures Attractiveness for Teens and up
  • Uses its own ‘sex system’ that enables the use of custom detailed sex animations
  • Has its own body system that makes sims anatomically correct, ie: no more barbie bodies
  • Pregnancy chances are dependent on the mod’s sex system
  • Displays sexual verbiage in different places throughout the game, ie: ‘Watch Porn’ on computers, ‘Have Sex’ in whims and the Romance pie menu when conversing with other sims

Wonderful Whims

  • Configures Attractiveness for Young Adults and up
  • Uses the game’s ‘woohoo system’ and does not have its own animations
  • Does not make sims anatomically correct
  • Pregnancy chances are dependent on the game’s woohoo system
  • Does not display sexual verbiage

Which one should you choose?

If you’re under 18
If you only want the Attractiveness/Menstrual/Personality systems (or at least one of them) but don’t mind teens not having the option for Attractiveness
If you have no interest in ever using the sex animations

Then Wonderful Whims is for you!

If you’re over 18 and want teens to have Attractiveness preferences
If you may want to use sex animations from time to time
If you don’t mind seeing sexual verbiage sparingly throughout the game

Then Wicked Whims (18+) is for you!

If you’re ready to give Wicked Whims a shot, but don’t want crazy sex stuff taking over your game, check out this article that gives step-by-step instructions on how to disable sex and nudity autonomy. If you’re not interested in doing it yourself, it’s cool, you can download my settings (be sure to read the directions) where I’ve already done it for you.

As always, happy simming!

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Summer Pop – A Reshade Preset

A simple, bright and colorful preset suitable for gameplay and designed with black/sims of color in mind.

After upgrading to my new PC, I unintentionally started working on a new Reshade preset and came up with this one — a simple, bright and colorful preset suitable for gameplay and designed with black/sims of color in mind. Y’all seemed to really like it when I posted the WIP pictures on Tumblr so I’m sharing it now 😊

If you’re new to Reshade, check out this step-by-step guide that takes you all the way from installation to in game set up.

Unedited Photos (Just Reshade & that’s it!)

Things you should know:

  • This preset was designed with Reshade 4.8.2 but should work with any 4.0 series. The newest version of Reshade can be found here.
  • These photos were shot with the Twinkle Toes lighting mod installed during the Summer season on a clear, warm afternoon.

Installation Info:

  • You need the qUINT MXAO shader (you may have already installed this during your Reshade 4.8 installation. You can check your Shaders folder to see if you’re not sure).
  • You need Full Bloom MultiLut by @pictureamoebae. Check out this tutorial if you’re not sure how to download/install this.
  • Turn off Edge Smoothing (this preset does this for you) so that DOF will work properly.

Toggle Keys:

  • DOF: Caps Lock
  • MXAO: Num Key 4
  • Fake HDR: Num Key 9
  • MultiLut: Num Key 6

* To make the preset gameplay friendly, I recommend toggling off MXAO and DOF.


  • Many users have reported having an issue where the mouse is ultra sensitive after installing Reshade. This doesn’t have anything to do with this preset or this specific version of Reshade but is a glitch caused by a setting in Origin. To fix this, open Origin > Application Settings > Origin In Game then switch off ‘Enable Origin’ in game and your problem should be solved.
  • Let me know if you have any issues and I’ll try to get them resolved for you.


  • Don’t re-upload
  • Don’t claim as yours
  • Enjoy!

Oh, and if you use this preset in your posts please let me know @mellindi on Tumblr. I would love to see ❤

Choose your download below:

Reshade 4.8 preset | Reshade 5.2 preset | Gshade preset

Lot used in the photos is: Fruit & Ficus Restaurant by me!
*pool pictured is not included

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Beginner’s Guide to Reshade in Sims 4

A step-by-step tutorial on installing Reshade, Reshade presets and an overview of the most commonly used shaders.

Note: When following this tutorial, please be sure to read all directions in its entirety. Following the screenshots alone may leave you with issues as there is usually additional info — important info — provided underneath the photos. There also may be updates that are not reflected in the photos but are given in the body of the post.

If you’re here, I’m sure I don’t need to tell you about all the amazing things Reshade can do for your photos but since you’re here, you probably feel a little overwhelmed or intimated by the interface and all those settings. I get it though. I put off using Reshade — even installed and uninstalled it three times — for the longest because it seemed like it was too much. I found some great tutorials that showed me how to install but I felt like once I actually got in the game, I was on my own. So with this tutorial, I’m hoping that you’ll walk away with the tools and confidence you need to give Reshade a real shot.

This article is the first entry in a new series I’m working on for storytellers. The next post will be all about taking good photos for storytelling and provide tips for angles, scene set ups, capturing emotions etc… so be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

In this tutorial, we’ll be using Reshade 4.7.0 which you can download here.
It’s also worth noting that Reshade updates often but this tutorial should be relevant for the entire 4.7 series unless some huge changes are implemented. If that does happen, I’ll revisit this article.

Note for Beginners: A few things are discussed in this tutorial that require downloading content from custom content creators so if you’re new to all of this, check out this step-by-step guide first.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Installing Reshade 4.7.0
Installing Presets
Installing Full Bloom MultiLUT by pictureamoebae
The Interface
Setting Up Toggle & Screenshot Keys
Most Commonly Used Shaders
Uninstalling Reshade

Installing Reshade 4.7.0

Before we get started, you’ll need to turn off Edge Smoothing in the in game graphics settings. Leaving this on will prevent the DOF shader from working properly. If you’re concerned about jagged edges on your sims and objects, don’t worry, Reshade will take care of that.

Now that, that’s done, let’s get started! First, you’ll need to download Reshade. This tutorial uses 4.7.0 but the official site updates the program frequently. If you would like to download 4.7.0 specifically, you can download it (and any of the older versions) here. If you would like to use the newest version, you can find that here.

Once it’s downloaded, run the setup application, Reshade_Setup_4.7.0.exe and select the first box in the Reshade Setup menu: Click here to select a game and manage its Reshade installation.

Click Browse in the pop up box to select your game, TS4_x64, which should be located: (C:/Program Files (x86)/Origin Games/The Sims 4/Game/Bin)

*Pro Tip: If you’re a Windows user, I suggest creating a shortcut or pinning the Bin folder to your Quick Access menu as we use it many times throughout this tutorial.

In the next pop up box, select Direct3D 9.

The next box is where you’ll select all of the shaders/effects you want to install. This part can be a little tricky because what you want will ultimately depend on what preset you plan to use and the shaders used by the creator. If you’re just starting out and not sure exactly what you need, I recommend either installing:

I recommend installing:

  • Standard Effects
  • SweetFX by CeeJay
  • Legacy Standard Effects (so that you can use older presets, ie: those made with Reshade 3.0.8, with the newer version)


  • Standard Effects
  • Any additional effects such as SweetFX by CeeJay but NOT Legacy Standard Effects

Once you have Reshade installed and your preset selected and you find that you’re missing shaders, I recommend installing the Legacy Standard Effects separately.

Once you have everything selected, click Ok.

Depending on your selection, additional boxes will pop open (one after the other) to allow you to select/deselect the effects you want/don’t want. Be sure to select all the effects you want (some may come pre-selected) then click Ok at the bottom of each box once you’re done.

And you’re all done! Time to download some presets and go into game!

Installing Presets

Presets are downloaded just like any other form of custom content, only difference is that the .ini file goes directly into your Bin folder (C:/Program Files (x86)/Origin Games/The Sims 4/Game/Bin) and will be automatically picked up by Reshade the next time you launch the game.

For the purpose of this tutorial, I recommend downloading my Jellybean preset so that you can follow along with the settings once we go in game. This preset uses the MultiLUT shader so follow the directions below for help installing it.

Installing Full Bloom MultiLUT by pictureamoebae

MultiLUT is another shader that allows you to enhance any preset with additional coloring. With MultiLUT, you can literally transform one preset to a number of looks by just selecting a different LUT. Some presets depend on MultiLUT to display a particular look so it’s worth having it installed so you’re already prepared.

The first thing you need to do is download the Full Bloom MultiLUT by pictureamoebae.

Once you click the download button, you’ll be taken to Simfileshare where two MultiLUT files are stored:

The file you want to download is amoebae – Full Bloom 66 MultiLUT.7z.

Once the file is downloaded and unzipped, you’ll have two folders: shaders and textures

Open the shaders folder and move the MultiLUT shader over to your Shaders folder (Bin/reshade-shaders/Shaders).

Next, open the textures folder and move the amoebae_fullbloom66_multilut file over to your Textures folder (Bin/reshade-shaders/Textures) and you’re done!

While you’re in your Bin folder, its a good time to check your Shaders folder for duplicate shaders. One problem people tend to have a lot is duplicate MultiLUT shaders. Having duplicate shaders WILL cause you problems so check the Shaders folder AND any subfolders within the Shaders folder for shaders you may have downloaded to make sure there aren’t any duplicates.

The Interface

Time to load the game! While it’s loading, the screen may go black or pause for a minute or so while the shaders load. In my experience, 4.7.0 loads very quickly and is much more gentle on your system, especially compared to 3.0.8 which I have used in the past.

Once the game is loaded, the Reshade interface will automatically open. To open/close it on your own, you will use the Home key (or Fn + Home if you’re on a laptop). When Reshade is loaded for the first time, you’ll receive the option to follow the built-in tutorial (which you can if you want) but for the purpose of this tutorial, we’re going to skip that and select Skip Tutorial.

Selecting Presets

To select a preset, click the top bar with Default Preset displayed. From the drop down menu, you can select the preset of your choice. In this case, you would select Jellybean.ini.

Once the preset loads, your screen may become blurry from the DOF shader but don’t worry, it’s doing exactly what it’s supposed to do. I’ll show you how to toggle it off in one second, I just want to take a moment to mention that whenever I’m using a new preset, I always select Active to top which moves all active shaders to the top of the screen so you don’t have to go searching for things you want to toggle off or tweak.

Setting Up Toggle & Screenshot Keys

Now about those toggles I mentioned, to use Reshade effectively, there are a few things I recommend setting up/altering in the beginning to make things more comfortable for you. To get started, select the Settings tab at the top of the menu.

Effect Toggle Key

This allows you to toggle all effects on and off. So say you’re using a pretty intense preset that’s not suitable for gameplay and only want the preset active while you’re taking screenshots. You would simply press whatever key you choose to use (mine is Numpad 8) to toggle the preset on and off as you please.

To set the key, click inside of the box next to Effect Toggle Key and press the key you would like to use. The Click to set key shortcut phrase will change to the key you select.

Screenshot Key

The default key for screenshots is the Print Screen key. To change this, you would follow the same instructions as above. I personally use Numpad 5 for my screenshot key.

Individual Effects Toggle

There may be situations in which you would like some effects on but others off. To do this, you would just need to set a toggle key for each effect in which you would like the ability to toggle on/off.

To get back to the effects panel, you would click the Home tab, right next to the Settings tab at the top of the menu.

If you’re using the Jellybean preset, you’ll notice that some effects already have pre-selected toggle keys (displayed to the right of the effect name) such as MXAO and Cinematic DOF.

To change these keys or set toggle keys for any of the other presets, right-click on the effect’s name > click the box > select your desired key.

Most Commonly Used Shaders

Now that we’ve gotten the technical stuff out the way, let’s talk about shaders. As you can see, there’s a long list of shaders installed. I imagine just looking them is a kind of overwhelming. Once you start trying out different presets though, you’ll notice that most of them use many of the same shaders. These are the ones we’ll go over today.

*Below each shader is a comparison photo featuring an off/on version with that shader enabled only.

*I should probably point out that I am in no way an expert with Reshade. I just know enough to make it do what I want. With that being said, all definitions provided below are super non-technical and my own personal way of describing them in a way that I hope makes sense to everyone else.

**=Shaders that are a little more intense and not recommended for gameplay.

**MXAO – provides the dark shadows and “3D look” of sims and objects

SMAA – smooths out the jagged edges on sims and objects when Edge Smoothing is turned off

DPX – brightens things up

Vibrance – adds additional coloring

Colourfulness – just like Vibrance, adds additional coloring

**Cinematic DOF (or any other DOFs) – blurs the background from the subject

**Ambient Light – adds pretty lighting similar to light leaks

**Bloom and Lens Flares – adds lens flares and additional lighting in some cases

Uninstalling Reshade

Uninstalling is super easy and only requires removing a few files. If this uninstall is temporary so that you can try out another version of Reshade or you need to troubleshoot some issues you’ve been experiencing:

Just navigate back to your Bin folder (C:/Program Files (x86)/Origin Games/The Sims 4/Game/Bin)

Move the following files/folders over to your Desktop, Documents or any other folder of your choice :

  • d3d9.dll file
  • d3d9 file
  • reshade-shaders folder
  • all reshade presets

And that’s it! If you ever choose to reinstall, just drag these files back into your Bin folder and you’re good to go! If you’re completely done with Reshade you can delete these files instead.

Additional Tips/Info:

  • Take photos in tab mode to remove the UI.
  • With most presets, the DOF is mouse driven, meaning that whatever your mouse is on will become the subject and everything will be blurred out.
  • Presets for older versions (3.0.8, 3.41, etc…) will work with 4.7.0 but may look a little different or require some additional tweaking.
  • Playing in Fullscreen mode will require Reshade to reload the shaders each time you toggle between the game and something else like Google so if this is something you usually do, I recommend playing in Windowed Fullscreen mode or Windowed mode.
  • After installation, check your Shaders folder one more time to make sure you don’t have any duplicate shaders. I cannot stress enough that you WILL have issues from presets looking off to game instability so please, please, please double check!

Reshade is highly customizable and provides a great base for editing. The best way to truly learn your way around is to try out different presets and see what they use. Toggle things on/off, change the values and see what happens. The more time you spend with it, the more you’ll understand it and the stronger your skill set will become. In the meantime, I hope you found these tips helpful and that they get you one step closer to making your game more beautiful!

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Jellybean – A Reshade Preset

A bright and colorful preset for Reshade 4.6.1, inspired by all of the beautiful colors in Sulani and created with black sims and sims of color in mind. Great for gameplay and photography as well.

If you’re new to Reshade, check out this step-by-step guide that takes you all the way from installation to in game set up.

For Reshade 4.6.1

I’ve been playing with this preset for a little while now and figured I’d share it with y’all since I’ve been asked about my reshade/editing a few times.

Things you should know:

  • This preset was designed specifically with black sims and sims of color in mind. It will bring out the richness of their skin tone without washing out or dulling it in any way. Looks even better with light editing, linked below.
  • Very light preset great for gameplay. I just toggle off MXAO and DOF when I’m playing and toggle back on to snap pics.
  • To achieve the look seen in the reshade + editing photos (the cover photo as well) I use the Warm Light, Warmth and Orange Pop actions from the Sunbloom Action Set by @honeycuts (adjusted according to the photo) and the Topaz Clean and Texture Smoothing actions in the Clean and Clear Action Set by @kaleekalo.
  • I use the No Blu lighting mod by @wrixles​ which makes things a little less blue and a little more orange which I personally love.
  • This preset was created with Reshade 4.6.1 so I don’t know how it would work for older versions. Is reported to be working with older versions of Reshade, specifically version 3.0.8.
  • I’m no expert in any way when it comes to reshade but if you run into trouble with this preset, let me know and I’ll try my best to help you.

Installation Info:

Shaders Used: 

  • MXAO
  • SMAA
  • DPX
  • Vibrance
  • Colorfulness
  • Color Matrix
  • MultiLut
  • Cinematic DOF

Toggle Keys:

  • MXAO: Num Key 4
  • DOF: Caps Lock


  • Many users have reported having an issue where the mouse is ultra sensitive after installing Reshade. This doesn’t have anything to do with this preset or this specific version of Reshade but is a glitch caused by a setting in Origin. To fix this, open Origin > Application Settings > Origin In Game then switch off Enable Origin in game and your problem should be solved.


  • Don’t reupload
  • Don’t claim as yours
  • Enjoy!

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Reshade preset | Gshade preset

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How to Set up Restaurants so your Sims Actually Get their Food

Dine Out is one of those packs that I feel like I see a lot of people having issues with, specifically with sims getting their food and I always found this interesting cause this is an issue that I haven’t had in years – not since I discovered that having functional restaurants in the Sims 4 all comes down to logistics and eliminating distractions. 

The Set Up.

The most important thing about restaurants is the set up. The kitchen, dining area and waiter stations all need to be in close proximity to each other. The kitchen should also be free of clutter and consist of only the things chef’s need to prepare food. Things like wall cabinets and other storage items are usually fine but I mean, chef’s don’t interact with these things so I don’t really think they’re necessary. 

I’ll use my Greenbox Restaurant as an example for this:


As you can see, everything is very close so restaurant employees have no problem getting to the kitchen and back to diners with ease. For some reason, having a set up where the dining area is upstairs with the kitchen downstairs and waiter’s station somewhere in the back (or various other scattered set ups) causes issues which will delay your sims’ order. 

Eliminating Distractions.

Restaurants are the worst place for distractions because sims really aren’t smart enough to understand that they can’t put off taking orders to go dance or that the TV is for customers only. Any form of entertainment (the type that they would autonomously partake in at home) will prevent them from doing their job so I recommend getting rid of it (radios, TVs, ping pong tables, bubble blowing machines, etc…). While, we’re on the subject of distractions, also be aware that multi-use lots do not work well with restaurants. Things like bowling alleys, movie theaters, shops, all of that, on a restaurant lot is basically a guarantee that they’ll never get their food so just let restaurants be restaurants.

When I place other people’s restaurants in my saves, I always take a quick look at the set up and make changes following the guidelines listed above and I have no issues.

Check your Mods.

Outdated mods that adjust/control the population as well as custom food mods that introduce new recipes, harvestables, etc… will break your restaurants and prevent employees from spawning or meals from being served so make sure you keep those up to date and remove any that are no longer supported.

Following these instructions, my sims typically get their food in about 20-30 sim minutes which is perfect.

Hopefully this little guide will help your sims enjoy dining out again 🙂

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You Can Have Roommates in Sims 4?!

A step-by-step tutorial on how to use the Roommate Mod by LittleMsSam.

Yes! Yes you can! With a mod anyway and if you’re anything like me and love playing with mods, this is one you’ll definitely want to add to your collection.

Discover University released with a roommates feature which is awesome, but this mod works a little differently and allows you to have roommates that aren’t so needy.

Note for Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Recommended Mods
Recommended Lots
Finding Roommates
Getting Rid of Roommates
Additional Tips
Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC

I’ve been playing with this mod in my current save for a little while now and spent so much time boasting about it on Tumblr that I decided to put together this little how-to-guide for those of you wanting to give it a try. I honestly don’t think I could go back to “single family” living after playing this way. Littlemssam did an awesome job at providing all of the important information regarding the mod so I just want to add a few things I picked up on during my gameplay that makes things a little easier for me.

Before you get started, you’ll need to download the Roommates mod by littlemssam as well as the (optional) but recommended mods listed below. These mods are not absolutely necessary but will help make your sim’s experience living with roommates so much better. The best part is that all of the mods listed below also help with a few other annoying things in regular gameplay too so they’re worth keeping around.

Recommended Mods:

  • MC Command Center – makes everything in the game so much better with error catching, story progression and so many other options to customize your game the way you want. Will be used in this guide
  • Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims – Grant access to rooms/houses for only the sims you want. Similar to the lock/unlock feature already in the game but so, so much better. Will be used in this guide
  • Ask to Cook/Bake/Grill/Mix Drinks – allows your sim to ask others to do the cooking for them. I sometimes use this mod with my legacy families to ask Grandma to help cook for Harvestfest or other family events
  • Choose who you Call to Meal – this one is also super helpful with this mod in particular because there will be other sims living on your lot making it difficult to call only your household/guests to meals. This mod makes that possible
  • No Gardening Club Harvesting – this one is useful if you plan to have your sims live on a lot with a large garden and form a club with their roommates (more on that later). Also worth keeping if you play with sims who are members of a gardening club.
  • Visitor Notifications – Provides a little pop up whenever someone knocks on your door. Helpful in any gameplay but especially this one where other sims are frequently roaming your lot.

Recommended Lots:

Technically, any lot with more than one bedroom could be used for a roommate living situation but I’ve listed a few below that I have in my game that I think fits perfectly with this mod:

Finding Roommates

Now that you have your sim created, lot picked out and are all moved in, you’re ready to find some roommates.

Note: Sims must be “homeless” (currently not living in world) to be eligible to become roommates so make sure they aren’t living somewhere already and if they are, move them out. Also, be sure to favorite (heart) their households in “Manage Households” so they don’t end up getting culled by the game at some point. You can have up to 20 roommates, including children and pets (as long as their owners are also roommates).

In Live Mode, have your sim call up the “LMS Roommate Service”, using their phone.

A dialog box will pop open listing all sims eligible to become roommates. If you don’t see the sim(s) you want listed, check in “Manage Households” from the Map View to make sure they are in fact “homeless”. Once your roommates are selected, you’ll get a pop up letting you know they are on the way.

In build mode, be sure to add the “Roommate Lot Trait”. This tells roommates to come back home whenever they leave for work or other activities, otherwise, your sim will have to call them back manually via their phone.

Note: Before they arrive, be sure set your sim’s door as the front door so that visitors will know which door to knock on (roommates don’t get visitors).

Once they begin arriving, lock any doors, using the pie menu from the Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims mod, that you don’t want them to have access to. In my save, I locked my sim’s door for everyone except her (this can be adjusted later on for partners, family, friends who don’t live on the lot) and locked her out of all the other houses (because things get pretty confusing when she tries to use sinks or toilets in her roommates’ spaces).

Note: Roommates will wander in and out of each other’s houses which I’m fine with cause they seem to enjoy each other’s company and on top of that, they work together to keep the place clean.

Next, assign them beds. Like I mentioned above, they will wander in and out of each other’s houses but if you assign them a bed, they’ll always sleep there whenever they’re tired. Couples can be assigned the same bed so don’t worry about any issues there.

Roommates all come with a special pie menu that your sim can use to make them take care of themselves and other things that need attention on the property:

  • Can you go and repair the broken items please?
  • You stink, please go and take a shower.
  • It is late already, you should go to sleep.
  • Go and use the toilet before you pee yourself.
  • You are on cleaning duty!
  • Cancel roommate agreement

They tend to do really well in the self-care department but I did have one sim wait a little too long to go to the bathroom so just know the options are there in case you need them.

Getting Rid of Roommates:

If things aren’t working out as well as you’d hope, you can cancel the roommate agreement at any time via your sim’s phone (quickest way to get rid of everyone) or the roommate’s pie menu directly on the sim.


Here are a few things I learned during my gameplay that can help you out when playing with this mod:

  • Clubs are the perfect way to get free labor – I had my sim form a club with all of her roommates where the primary tasks are cleaning, gardening, repairing and friendly interactions (so they can get to know each other easier). I usually start a gathering once a day while my sim is performing her work tasks (don’t judge me, we have promotions to earn!) and they take care of everything except her house since I keep the door locked. If your lot has a large garden, I recommend downloading the No Gardening Club Harvesting mod because they will harvest your produce and there’s no way to get it back!
  • Sometimes roommates get lost – Sometimes, when my sim leaves the lot for an extended period of time, like 24 hours, roommates don’t respawn. Upon returning to the lot, I typically wait a few hours to see if they show up. If they don’t, just cancel the roommate agreement and set up a new one. Sometimes when you cancel the agreement the game will automatically move them into empty households. If you try to set up a new agreement and you don’t see them listed as available sims, then this is probably what happened. Just evict them from their new houses then try again.
  • Double rent – Roommates pay you $500 rent every Friday. If you have a married couple living on the lot, they will each pay $500. Not sure about children but the same happened when I had a dog living on the property. Guess, he was responsible for his own room and board, lol.
  • Bills may get more expensive – Large lots like this one are extremely expensive and even with each roommate paying rent, your sim will still end up paying the bulk of it, so I use MC Command Center to adjust the percentage of the bills to make things more affordable. To find out how to do this, see below:

Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC:

Click any computer on any lot to bring up the “MC Command Center” pie menu and click “MCCC Settings”

Click “Money Settings” then “Change Bills Percent”. This is where you can change the amount of the bills. As you can see, I set mine at -80% which brought the household bills down from close to $8000 to close to $2000. This won’t give you an exact amount for your bills but you can make a rough guesstimate as to what the outcome will be. The changes will take effect immediately and be reflected on your next week’s bills.

Note: If bills were already delivered for the week, it won’t change it. You’ll just have to pay it then wait for the next week’s bills to see the new amount.

And you’ve reached the end of this guide. I hope you found it useful!

Credits: littlemssam, manxcat, bravesim, jenba, peacemaker (for their amazing mods and builds)

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Making Wicked Whims a Little Less … Wicked

A step-by-step guide on customizing your Wicked Whims settings so that the mod isn’t so intrusive.

BEFORE YOU READ: This article contains adult content that is intended for readers 18+. Some of the links here also lead to adult websites that are inappropriate for children. Please do not proceed if you are a minor.

Note for Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

You may have heard of the mod, Wicked Whims, that offers animated sex interactions for the Sims 4. At first glance, it may seem like too much. Especially if you’ve heard stories of orgies popping off at restaurants or parents doing obscene and questionable things in front of their children, but the mod has come a long way since its release and offers so much more than just sex. Things like detailed menstrual and fertility cycles, personality archetypes and a full fledged attractiveness system like back in the good ole Sims 2 days, make this mod a must have for me.

If you’re not interested in all of the sex and nudity stuff, but would like to take advantage of the other features mentioned above, there is a way to turn that portion of the mod off, almost completely. It’ll still exist but only at your direction. This way you won’t have to worry about Father Winter getting it on with one or two of your sims at Winterfest, I mean, unless that’s what you want.

If you’re in a rush and don’t have time for the tutorial, scroll down to the bottom of this page where you can download my settings which are already done for you.

Alternatively, if you have no interest in ever using the sex or nudity stuff that comes along with this mod, Turbodriver, the creator of Wicked Whims, has released a PG-13 version of the mod called Wonderful Whims.

Not sure which mod, Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims is right for you? Check out this short article which highlights the main differences between the mods so that you can make the best decision for your game.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Downloading the Mod
Customizing the Settings
Exporting/Importing Your Settings
Recommended Mods
Additional Notes
Download my Settings

Downloading the Mod:

So to get started, you need to download and install the mod. You can find it on the official Wicked Whims site here.

*Note: The mod is the only thing you need to download. No animations are necessary unless you want them. The animations are what allows the possibility for detailed sex to happen in your game but since this post is about how to tone things down, we aren’t going to go over that.

For everyone else, unzip and place the “WickedWhimsMod” folder in your Mods folder making sure it is no more than one folder deep. Now we’re ready to start the game.

Customizing the Settings:

To make changes to the Wicked Whims Settings, you need to be in live mode, so choose any random family in the save you’re playing and load up their household.

*Note: Settings have to be reconfigured for every save so it’s important to choose the save you’re playing. Don’t worry though, once we’re done, I’ll show you how to export them so that you can easily import them for future saves.

Once you’re there, click on any available sim or spot on the ground and click the “Wicked…” option.

There are two main settings that we need to focus on, “Nudity” and “Sex”. We’ll start with Nudity. Click on “Nudity Settings”.

Click to uncheck “Naturism and Exhibitionism Switch”. This will disable sims from gaining the exhibitionism skill which is all about nudity.

Next click on “Occurrence Settings”. This is where we will turn autonomy off.

Next click to place a check mark next to “Disable Nudity Occurrences”. This disables all nudity autonomy so sims won’t randomly strip down for no reason.

Click the “x” to go back to the main Nudity Settings Screen and click “Other Settings”. Uncheck “Toilet Undressing Switch” to prevent them from removing their pants or entire outfit (depending on what they’re wearing) when they use the bathroom and “Breast Feeding Undressing Switch” to prevent female sims from removing their top + bra when breastfeeding.

Go back to the main Nudity Settings Screen again and click “Special Settings”. Uncheck “Window Peeping Switch” to prevent a special NPC sim from being generated for the sole purpose of peeping in your sims’ window. I just don’t like this so I disable it.

Now we’re all done with the Nudity Settings! Click the “x” until you get back to the main Wicked Whims Settings Screen and click “Sex Settings”. This one is fairly simple and much quicker than the nudity stuff.

Click to uncheck “Autonomy Switch” to prevent sims from autonomously engaging in sexual acts.

And that’s it!

Exporting/Importing Your Settings:

To export your settings, in the main Wicked Whims Settings screen, click “Settings Control” then “Export Current Settings”. A dialog box will pop open and allow you to name your settings. To import your settings (for other saves) follow the same steps above and click “Import Settings” and select the settings you would like to import and restart the game for the changes to take effect.

I also recommend downloading a few additional mods that helps censor a few things that you may not want to see:

Additional Notes:

Following these steps will allow you to disable autonomy for both nudity and sexual occurrences in your game but it won’t prevent other additions made to the game from showing up.

Examples include:

  • Watch porn option on the computer
  • Order sex items option on the computer (condoms/birth control/menstrual items)
  • Have sex option included as a date goal (not required to actually get a medal)
  • Have sex with … as whim
  • Phone option to terminate pregnancy

If seeing any of these things in your game bothers you, I would strongly caution against downloading this mod.

Download my Settings

These settings have all sex and nudity autonomy disabled as well as:

  • Sweating (it tends to get stuck, requiring a cheat to remove it so I keep it disabled)
  • Cum Layer Visibility
  • Peeping Tom

Things changed/customized:

  • Menstrual Cycle – On
  • Birth Control Accuracy – Perfect
  • Crab Lice – Off
  • Romance Age Restriction – Off (disables adult and teen romance)
  • NPC Sex Duration – 1 minute
  • Player Sex Duration – 15 seconds per animation (some animations have several rotations so this just keeps them from going at it for hours)

If you like these settings and wish to download:

  • First, download my settings (automatic download), unzip the folder and place the Mellindi’s_Modified_Settings_1_2021 and Exported_Settings_List files into your WickedWhimsSettings folder located with your Wicked Whims mod in your Mods Folder.
  • Next, follow the instructions for Exporting/Importing Your Settings (to import the settings) in this article and you’re good to go!

Since Wicked Whims is all about romance, well… sort of, check out my other articles about romance, relationships and pregnancy!

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4
Better Pregnancies in Sims 4

credits: turbodriver for this amazing mod!

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