17 Mods for Better Sims & Socials in Sims 4

Must-have mods for deeper sim personalities, more meaningful conversations, and custom whims that provide a better, more fleshed out gameplay experience.

Sims, in their current state, all feel a little similar, regardless of traits. They have the same wants, same reactions, and are way too predictable for my liking. The same can be said for the social interactions, phone calls, and whims too. If you’re like me and need a little more variety in the way your sims think and interact with each other, keep reading for a few great mods that can provide that for you.

Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

While researching the mods for this post, I checked to make sure they were still working and being maintained by the creator, but the status could change at any time. Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches, so always check the creator’s website for updates.


Social Interactions
Custom Whims


The Personality Mod by MissyHissy

Adds new personalities to sims via reward traits (purchased in the Rewards Store). These personalities are inspired by the Sims 2 aspirations and include: Knowledge Sim, Pleasure Sim, Fortune Sim, Family Sim and more.

The Hobby Mod by MissyHissy

This one also adds new “hobbies” to the game via traits (don’t worry, they’re in-game traits so you don’t lose a CAS slot) that give your sims brand new interests. Hobbies include: Cuisine, Arts and Crafts, Fitness, Music and Dance, and a whole lot more.

Trait Overhaul by Bienchen

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An essential mod that completely reworks the existing traits to make them more meaningful and distinct from each other. This can influence how well they get along with other sims and even their performance at work! This one pairs really well with the Whim Overhaul by the same creator (linked further down).

Preferences Plus by SimHelaene

Adds over 20 new interests to the likes/dislikes section to choose from in CAS. Includes unique social interactions, whims, and even computer options. Sims will have a more fleshed-out personality that’s most visible when interacting with or reacting to other sims.

Slice of Life – My Personality Pack by KawaiiStacie

Adds 16 detailed personality traits based on the Myers-Briggs Personality Types. These personality types affect everything from autonomy to careers and skill gain. Autonomy is coded to take into account a sim’s age, gender, even the weather, for much more variety.

Character Values Overhaul by Tyjokr

Completely overhauls the Character Value System. With this mod, sims start off with random positive/negative character values. Over time, the value points will decay to make raising “perfect” children much more challenging. This mod also reworks the system to make use of all in-game traits and will have a greater affect on toddler-teen sims.

First Impressions by Lumpinou

This one technically affects the way sims feel about each other after meeting for the first time, but I put it under the Personality category because it’s more about a sim’s internal feelings. With that being said, this mod lets you know how sims really feel when meeting others. One may find a particular sim “weird” while that same sim finds them “clingy”. Another may give off a “childish” vibe while others read them as “interesting”. The best part of this mod is that feelings are completely one-sided, so while one sim may have gotten a good impression from another, the feeling may not be mutual.

Celebrity System by KiaraSims4Mods

This mod adds so much personality to the celebrity system, so I felt it deserved a mention here. With this one, certain events in your sims’ lives have the potential to make the tabloids. Caught cheating on their spouse? The public might have an opinion on that. Caught stealing in public? You better believe the world’s going to hear about it. Celebrating a child’s birthday party or vacationing with the family? All that gets reported too. Sims can even be falsely accused of things they didn’t do and sue the paparazzi for slander! Results may vary. I played the actor career for the first time recently and this mod made being a celebrity so much more fun. I highly recommend.

Interested in how I flesh out my sims’ personalities? Read here.

Social Interactions

Random Texts and Calls by Kuttoe

Adds a ton of texts and phone calls from other sims that make relationships (of all kinds) feel much more meaningful. The one where the parent sends their adult child money ‘for a good meal’ or a ‘warm coat’ are my personal favorites.

Contextual Social Interactions by Lumpinou

Adds brand new social interactions to the chat menu about all the exciting things going on in your sims’ lives. With this one, sims can finally tell their loved ones about their most recent promotion or their friends about their divorce. They can enthuse about their latest workout or announce their pregnancy to others outside of the family. Most of these interactions are autonomous too, which is awesome for storytelling and makes communication feel much more special.

Storytelling Socials by Lazarusinashes

More interactions that add personality to conversations. Married sims can discuss the possibility of having children. Vegetarian sims can express their disgust for meat-eaters. Outgoing sims can mock loners for their lack of social skills, etc… Interactions and other sims’ reactions to them are determined by trait and the relationship value.

Chat Pack – More Social Interactions for Your Sims by NateTheL0ser

Even more interactions! This one focuses a little more on life events and feelings, which I think is pretty awesome. Sims can announce their engagements, show ultrasound pictures to family and friends, and even discuss midlife crises. Many of these socials are geared toward adult and elder sims, which is something we could use much more of in the game.

Social Interaction Pack by KiaraSims4Mods

This one adds social interactions that focus heavily on relationships, personalities, and life events. Things like: asking for permission to propose, bragging about your sim’s partner, and even simple things like saying good morning and wishing another sim happy birthday are sure to liven up your sims’ conversations.

Romance Interaction Pack by KiaraSims4Mods

Adds brand new interactions for sims in love. Socials include: Discuss Meeting Parents, Declare Soulmate, Admire Woohoo Techniques, and so much more. Pairs really well Memorable Events by KawaiiStacie as a sim autonomously discussing the idea of their significant other meeting their family would be the perfect time for you to get a ‘Meet the Family’ event on the calendar.

For more ideas to fill up your sims’ calendars, check out this post.

More Ask What Happened by Bienchen

Adds new social interactions that allow sims to ask others about the unfortunate events they’ve experienced in life. Negative events include: cheating, negative pregnancy test, divorce and more.

Custom Whims

Whim Overhaul by Bienchen

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Completely overhauls the whim system so that sims actually want more things out of life (besides 1×1 pools and dishwashers *rolls eyes*). Whims include special wishes for each age group and are geared toward spending time and interacting with friends and family.

The Custom Whims Mod by MissyHissy

Compliments the Personality, Hobby and Character Value mods (all linked above) by adding a bunch of new whims that are more likely to make your sims want to do things based on their traits, aspirations, and relationships. For example: a family sim may get a whim to watch a movie with other family members and a fortune sim may get a whim to purchase a business.

And that’s it for now! I hope the mods listed here help liven up your sims’ lives.


For more mod recommendations, check out:

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4

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