17 Mods for Better Sims & Socials in Sims 4

Must-have mods for deeper sim personalities, more meaningful conversations, and custom whims that provide a better, more fleshed out gameplay experience.

Sims, in their current state, all feel a little similar, regardless of traits. They have the same wants, same reactions, and are way too predictable for my liking. The same can be said for the social interactions, phone calls, and whims too. If you’re like me and need a little more variety in the way your sims think and interact with each other, keep reading for a few great mods that can provide that for you.

Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

While researching the mods for this post, I checked to make sure they were still working and being maintained by the creator, but the status could change at any time. Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches, so always check the creator’s website for updates.


Social Interactions
Custom Whims


The Personality Mod by MissyHissy

Adds new personalities to sims via reward traits (purchased in the Rewards Store). These personalities are inspired by the Sims 2 aspirations and include: Knowledge Sim, Pleasure Sim, Fortune Sim, Family Sim and more.

The Hobby Mod by MissyHissy

This one also adds new “hobbies” to the game via traits (don’t worry, they’re in-game traits so you don’t lose a CAS slot) that give your sims brand new interests. Hobbies include: Cuisine, Arts and Crafts, Fitness, Music and Dance, and a whole lot more.

Trait Overhaul by Bienchen

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An essential mod that completely reworks the existing traits to make them more meaningful and distinct from each other. This can influence how well they get along with other sims and even their performance at work! This one pairs really well with the Whim Overhaul by the same creator (linked further down).

Preferences Plus by SimHelaene

Adds over 20 new interests to the likes/dislikes section to choose from in CAS. Includes unique social interactions, whims, and even computer options. Sims will have a more fleshed-out personality that’s most visible when interacting with or reacting to other sims.

Slice of Life – My Personality Pack by KawaiiStacie

Adds 16 detailed personality traits based on the Myers-Briggs Personality Types. These personality types affect everything from autonomy to careers and skill gain. Autonomy is coded to take into account a sim’s age, gender, even the weather, for much more variety.

Character Values Overhaul by Tyjokr

Completely overhauls the Character Value System. With this mod, sims start off with random positive/negative character values. Over time, the value points will decay to make raising “perfect” children much more challenging. This mod also reworks the system to make use of all in-game traits and will have a greater affect on toddler-teen sims.

First Impressions by Lumpinou

This one technically affects the way sims feel about each other after meeting for the first time, but I put it under the Personality category because it’s more about a sim’s internal feelings. With that being said, this mod lets you know how sims really feel when meeting others. One may find a particular sim “weird” while that same sim finds them “clingy”. Another may give off a “childish” vibe while others read them as “interesting”. The best part of this mod is that feelings are completely one-sided, so while one sim may have gotten a good impression from another, the feeling may not be mutual.

Celebrity System by KiaraSims4Mods

This mod adds so much personality to the celebrity system, so I felt it deserved a mention here. With this one, certain events in your sims’ lives have the potential to make the tabloids. Caught cheating on their spouse? The public might have an opinion on that. Caught stealing in public? You better believe the world’s going to hear about it. Celebrating a child’s birthday party or vacationing with the family? All that gets reported too. Sims can even be falsely accused of things they didn’t do and sue the paparazzi for slander! Results may vary. I played the actor career for the first time recently and this mod made being a celebrity so much more fun. I highly recommend.

Interested in how I flesh out my sims’ personalities? Read here.

Social Interactions

Random Texts and Calls by Kuttoe

Adds a ton of texts and phone calls from other sims that make relationships (of all kinds) feel much more meaningful. The one where the parent sends their adult child money ‘for a good meal’ or a ‘warm coat’ are my personal favorites.

Contextual Social Interactions by Lumpinou

Adds brand new social interactions to the chat menu about all the exciting things going on in your sims’ lives. With this one, sims can finally tell their loved ones about their most recent promotion or their friends about their divorce. They can enthuse about their latest workout or announce their pregnancy to others outside of the family. Most of these interactions are autonomous too, which is awesome for storytelling and makes communication feel much more special.

Storytelling Socials by Lazarusinashes

More interactions that add personality to conversations. Married sims can discuss the possibility of having children. Vegetarian sims can express their disgust for meat-eaters. Outgoing sims can mock loners for their lack of social skills, etc… Interactions and other sims’ reactions to them are determined by trait and the relationship value.

Chat Pack – More Social Interactions for Your Sims by NateTheL0ser

Even more interactions! This one focuses a little more on life events and feelings, which I think is pretty awesome. Sims can announce their engagements, show ultrasound pictures to family and friends, and even discuss midlife crises. Many of these socials are geared toward adult and elder sims, which is something we could use much more of in the game.

Social Interaction Pack by KiaraSims4Mods

This one adds social interactions that focus heavily on relationships, personalities, and life events. Things like: asking for permission to propose, bragging about your sim’s partner, and even simple things like saying good morning and wishing another sim happy birthday are sure to liven up your sims’ conversations.

Romance Interaction Pack by KiaraSims4Mods

Adds brand new interactions for sims in love. Socials include: Discuss Meeting Parents, Declare Soulmate, Admire Woohoo Techniques, and so much more. Pairs really well Memorable Events by KawaiiStacie as a sim autonomously discussing the idea of their significant other meeting their family would be the perfect time for you to get a ‘Meet the Family’ event on the calendar.

For more ideas to fill up your sims’ calendars, check out this post.

More Ask What Happened by Bienchen

Adds new social interactions that allow sims to ask others about the unfortunate events they’ve experienced in life. Negative events include: cheating, negative pregnancy test, divorce and more.

Custom Whims

Whim Overhaul by Bienchen

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Completely overhauls the whim system so that sims actually want more things out of life (besides 1×1 pools and dishwashers *rolls eyes*). Whims include special wishes for each age group and are geared toward spending time and interacting with friends and family.

The Custom Whims Mod by MissyHissy

Compliments the Personality, Hobby and Character Value mods (all linked above) by adding a bunch of new whims that are more likely to make your sims want to do things based on their traits, aspirations, and relationships. For example: a family sim may get a whim to watch a movie with other family members and a fortune sim may get a whim to purchase a business.

And that’s it for now! I hope the mods listed here help liven up your sims’ lives.


For more mod recommendations, check out:

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4

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Must Have Mods for Sims 4 Parenthood

A breakdown of some mods that are must haves for the Sims 4 Parenthood.

Parenthood is one of my favorite game packs but like all packs, there’s always something I wish there was a little more or a little less of. The mods in this article help tone down or get rid of a lot of annoying things introduced with the pack as well as add new gameplay or cosmetic changes. As a bonus, I threw in a short tutorial for enabling child support payments with MC Command Center.

Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches so always check the creator’s website for updates.

* Parenthood pack may be required for these mods *

Make Less Mess/Clean Less Mess by Miss Puff

Ever feel like the kids and toddlers in game are constantly making messes? Like they just break out of whatever interaction they were performing just to go make a random mess? Or worse, to clean up the mess they just made for absolutely no reason at all? Well this mod helps with that by changing the autonomy of the “Make a Mess” and “Clean Up Mess” interactions making them occur less often. With this mod installed, the likelihood of messes being made or cleaned up will also be influenced by trait, mood and character value level.

Chores by littlemssam

This mod makes the bulletin board that comes with the pack useful for more than just obsessively hanging drawings and leaving notes by adding cleaning schedules for members of your sims’ household. Great for teaching your sim kids responsibility or large households which are notorious for staying dirty.

Lunchbox Replacement by aroundthesims4

Tired of brown sack lunches and want your sims to carry their leftovers in something a little more stylish instead? Well with this mod, you can choose between three super cute lunchboxes that will override the sack lunches in game. Styles include: plastic Tupperware container, kids lunchbox and dabba/canister. This is a default replacement which means it will override all lunchboxes in game. Be sure to read the directions before downloading.

* scroll down to the last three options towards the bottom of the page *

School Project is Fun for Some by littlemssam

This is a really simple mod that makes school projects a little more fun for sims based on their grade in school. As you can probably guess, A students receive a large boost to their fun motive and D and F students receive no boost at all.

No More School Project Box by Nova JY

If you and your sims happen to hate school projects no matter how fun they promise to be, this mod gets rid of them for you.

No Autonomous Set Table by littlemssam

If your sims have requested not to have fancy table settings during meals but the kids in the house refuse to listen, this mod should cure them of their mustsetthetableitis.

Parenting Skill for Teens and More by littlemssam

Ever heard the saying, it takes a village to raise a child? Well, I believe this is absolutely true and I also believe that the village should also earn parenting skills from taking care of those children. With this mod, other family members such as grandparents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles and step-siblings can all earn parenting skills when caring for and disciplining children. Also unlocks the parenting skill for teens too!

Faster Gain and Lose Character Values by Diffevair

If you tend to play on shorter or longer lifespans, this mod might be useful in helping your child and teen sims earn as many positive (or negative) character values before aging up.

No Ask for Advice — Parenthood by PolarBearSims

When you play large households, the constant need for advice can be a little overwhelming at times. With this mod, child and teen sims will no longer ask for advice unless directed to do so by you.

Lower Threshold for Parenthood Traits by tyjokr

Feel like it’s way too easy to raise well-mannered, empathetic, responsible kids? Well this mod makes it a lot easier to fall into the threshold for negative character value traits and ultimately makes you and the sim parent work a little harder to raise good kids.

No Change into Bear Costume by PolarBearSims

Okay so, I am NOT a fan of that bear costume, like at all, lol. If you feel the same way, this mod might be great for you. It prevents child sims from autonomously changing into the costume but unfortunately does not get rid of the negative moodlet that comes from not wearing it during the Bear Phase.

Bear Phase Tweak by Bienchen 83

With this mod the Bear Phase is gone! Well, not really but it’s way more bearable (lol) because with this mod, child sims will change into either a princess or pirate costume instead of those ugly bear suits. There’s two flavors; one that removes the sad moodlet completely (if they don’t wear the costume) and another that keeps the sad moodlet but weakens its intensity.

* scroll down to or search for “bearphasetweak” *

Clingy Childhood Phase Tweak by Bienchen 83

This mod prevents child sims who are going through the Clingy Phase from becoming tense from being around their siblings, grandparents or close friends.

* scroll down to or search for “clingychildhoodphasetweak” *

Granny’s Super Soup by Bienchen 83

I’ve mentioned a few times how much I love food mods so it’s probably easy to guess that this one is one of my favorites. It transforms the Minestrone recipe into a special super soup that can help fight colds and pimples and can only be prepared by sims with at least level 5 parenting skill. Also requires the Dine Out game pack.

* scroll down to or search for “grannyssupersoup” *

Parenthood Food Retexture by Utopia Sims

Check out this article for HD food retextures for all Sims 4 packs as well as custom foods your sims will love!

Parents deserve a little love and romance too, right? And if there’s parenthood, there’s a good chance pregnancy’s happening somewhere too so check out my other articles for mods all about romance and pregnancy:

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4
Better Pregnancies in Sims 4

Enable Child Support with MC Command Center

So this has nothing to do with the Parenthood game pack but since this post is pretty much about parents and parenting, I thought I’d throw this one in there too. So MC Command Center has this really cool feature that allows parents of child sims to collect child support from the non-custodial parent (parent the child does not live with). It happens automatically and applies to all households in the world where there are children living with only one parent.

To activate this feature: Click on any computer in any sim household from live view and select MC Command Center from the pie menu:

Next select MCCC Settings.

Then Money Settings > Pay Child Support.
This determines if an additional amount will be added to the active household’s weekly bills for each child they have that does not live with them.

Select the “value” or status of the custodial parent (parent the child lives with) for child support earnings/payments to occur. Options are:
A = All
M = Married Only
U = Unmarried Only
N = None

Next, select Back then Child Support Percent.

Enter the percentage of your choice. The default is 1% and takes into account the non-custodial parent’s total worth which includes lot value plus total funds. You can choose a number between 1%-1000%. I would aim for something realistic like 3%-10% just to be safe.

And that’s it! I hope you find the mods and suggestions listed here helpful!

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