Go Out Or Stay In?

Impromptu photo shoot of Camilla and Amir in one of Sulani’s beautiful beach hotels.

I came across two pose packs, Purr by afrosimtricsims (early access until 6/6/22) and YOLO by dearkims and had put them to use.

Whenever Camilla and Amir are together, they’re always tempted to skip all their plans and stay in. I imagine it would be no different on the beautiful beaches of Sulani.

Camilla’s hair + outfit

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Sticker Boxes – A Recolor

A recolor of the Sticker Storage boxes from Eco Lifestyle.

In all of my gameplays I get a ton of use out of those little storage boxes that came with Eco Lifestyle and by a ton, I mean a LOT! Since I use different boxes for different things I needed more designs to match it’s use. For those of you who have not tried out these boxes and have no idea why I love them so much, I’ll explain. These storage boxes act as their own individual inventory system. Unlike bookshelves and refrigerators, they don’t share inventories with anything else so you can literally have several for different things! Want a box for all those seeds those gnomes leave all over the place during Harvestfest? You got it! Want another for your collection of snow globes? Got that too! Need somewhere to store of all the adventure gear you have left over from your last jungle adventure? Mhm hmm!

If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.


— 72 swatches (that hopefully provides enough variety for all of your needs!
— Eco Lifestyle is required since this is just a recolor
— Search [mellindi] in the catalog to easily find them


  • Don’t re-upload or claim as yours
  • Can include in builds as long as they are 100% free (so commissions or early access — no)
  • Enjoy!
Pack icons used are from various sets by L’UniversSims

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16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4

A breakdown of some of my favorite mods that enhance the romance in relationships for Sims 4.

One thing I–and a lot of other simmers–feel is lacking in the game, is romance and fun in relationships. After playing for a while, things start to get real repetitive and real boring. I mean, they can only flirt, embrace, kiss, woohoo so many times before I’m ready to move on. If you’re finding yourself stuck in a state of my-sims-need-spice-in-their-lives too, read on for some awesome mod suggestions.

Note for beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches so always check the creator’s website for updates.

Click the mod’s name for the link.

Wicked Whims Attractiveness System (18+) by turbodriver

This is hands down one of the most exciting mods out there, IMO. The attractiveness feature gives each sim their own very detailed preferences ranging from: physical details like hair and eye color, body type, even thigh and butt size–if that’s your kind of thing; and non-physical details like personality type. With this mod, sims can find the sim of their dreams all on their own and it’s fantastic.

If you’re interested in this feature of the mod, but not all the other stuff, check out, Making Wicked Whims A Little Less … Wicked, to learn how to customize the settings and turn off most of the sexual parts of the mod or download Wonderful Whims, which is basically a PG-13 version of this mod.

Not sure which mod is right for you? Check out Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims, Which is Right for You?

SimDa Dating App by littlemssam

Ever wish your sims could expand their dating pool a little? See who else is out there besides the few sims that show up at the bar every night, or that one sim that seems to work at every food stall in every world every single day? Well, this mod’s got you covered. From blind dates to one-night-stands, your sim will have more options than they know what to do with. There’s even an add-on for Wicked Whims for those of you who want some really … really fun hook ups.

Improved Relationships – Cheating & Consequences by zero’s sims 4 mods

Okay so, this one doesn’t necessarily improve romances–it does the exact opposite–because instead of letting sims get away with flirting and messing around with other sims, it provides real consequences for those who decide to stray from their relationship. Sims who are caught cheating can apologize, explain the situation, blame the other sim, and even blame their partner. Sims who were cheated on can confront their partner, confront the other sim, forgive their partner or instead fight them. Could you imagine? I can!

MC Woohoo by deaderpool

MC Command Center is amazing, we all know this–a literal godsend to this game–but did you know that there is an MC Woohoo and that it does for your sims’ woohoo life what MC Command Center does for the rest of the game? With risky woohoo, no strings woohoo (woohoo friends), birth control options, even a full-blown woohoo skill, this mod has so, so much to offer.

Slice of Life Mod by kawaiistacie

This mod does a lot of different things that add interesting and unexpected events to the game. For the purpose of this article though, I’m just going to point out the Memory System which allows sims to finally have memories–real memories–that have a huge impact on their mood. Things like: marriage, divorce, first kiss, first woohoo, being cheated on, and break-ups will actually affect their day-to-day lives. There’s also a Drunk system that allows sims to make questionable woohoo choices such as: drunk woohoo and risky woohoo.

Pillow Talk After Woohoo by shimrod101

This mod just replaces the roll over and sleep or jump straight out of bed animation that usually plays after woohoo with a cute and cuddly one instead. Great for gameplay photos!

Ask For A Romantic Massage by littlemssam

If your sim just so happens to have a massage table conveniently located in their house, they can ask for a romantic massage from a love interest. Perfect for a date night at home and will put each sim in a strong, flirty mood.

Looking for ways to spice up your sims’ dating lives? I’ve got your covered:

Passionate Romance by sacrificial

This mod adds romantic interactions to the game that are super cute to watch play out between sims who are all in lurve. Goose (from Sims 2), romantic hug and romantic selfie are just a few that are included. Install this mod before the Romance Festival and watch all the couples get all snuggly during the event. It’s so cute!

Slow Dance by sacrificial

Adds a slow dance interaction, which is so needed for weddings or dates or any occasion where sims are enjoying slow music with their significant other.

Romantic Stargaze by sacrifical

Adds a romantic stargaze interaction for couples who like to snuggle while watching the stars. Sounds like a great ending to a sweet picnic date or a night at the beach to me.

Autonomous Proposals by polarbearsims

Enables the option for autonomous proposals, making it possible for NPCs to ask your sim for their hand in marriage. MC Command Center also has this option that you can toggle on, so this mod is not needed if you play with it.

Autonomous Weddings by polarbearsims

Enables the option for autonomous weddings, making it possible for sims to marry autonomously either at a wedding arch or by eloping. Perfect if even you want to be surprised when the lovebirds tie the knot.

Risky Woohoo by polarbearsims

So this mod makes any and all woohoo risky–meaning unplanned pregnancies are almost always possible. It also includes cool things like fertility levels for sims. I know this doesn’t contribute to romance per se, but I can definitely see a one-night-stand turned unplanned pregnancy turned life long lovers–or not–kind of situation stemming from this. Makes for a pretty interesting story!

Love Email Tweak by bienchen83

When your sim sends a love email to a sim of interest, this mod makes it possible for them to be asked out on a date by their crush.

* Scroll down to or search for “loveemailtweak” for the download link *

Less Jealous by bienchen83

If you’ve ever played a sim with the Jealous trait, you’ve probably noticed it can be a bit extreme at times, and that they are often tense because of negative thoughts regarding what their partner is probably–but more than likely not–doing behind their back. This mod tones that down some so that they are more likely to be reassured by their partner’s presence.

* Scroll down to or search for “lessjealous” for the download link *

MC Command Center by deaderpool

MC Command Center comes up every time I recommend mods because it really does that much. In the case of romance and relationships, it controls all story progression with NPC relationships. Because of this mod, they can get married, have kids, cheat, have kids outside of their relationship, break up, and move out without any involvement from you. It also allows you to turn off the random flirting that happens naturally in the game if you find that kind of thing annoying.

For more mods about romance & relationships, check out:

And when your sims are ready to add a new member to their family, check out:

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House Download: Little Lime

I had a request to share this little house that I’m using in Camilla’s gameplay save so here you go! It’s unfurnished cause apparently I did use more CC than I intended and don’t really have time to hunt down all those links. This one does use a few pieces of CC though which you can find linked below:


  • Tier 3 Tiny Home
  • 1 bed/1 bath
  • $26,250
  • 20×15 Lot Size
  • Required packs: Tiny Living, Outdoor Retreat, Get Together, Backyard Stuff, University, Jungle Adventure, Island Living (I have all the packs but these are the ones I know offhand)

Required CC:

ranch windows / wall shingles / lofte living / wall siding / trees & shrubs (included)
I also use these terrain replacements that edit the appearance of the grass and flooring that you see in the first photo. It’s not required but recommended if you want the exact same look in your game.


direct download | simfileshare (alt – no ads)
Or on the Gallery; Origin Id: mellocakesmakes (will upload once the Gallery starts working for me again)

If you are new to custom content and need help downloading/installing, check out this guide.

Notes: If you use it in your photos, please tag me on Tumblr @mellindi, I would love to see.
Also, in the Gallery, be sure to check the “include custom content” box so it’ll show up. If there is anything missing, please let me know!


You Can Have Roommates in Sims 4?!

A step-by-step tutorial on how to use the Roommate Mod by LittleMsSam.

Yes! Yes you can! With a mod anyway and if you’re anything like me and love playing with mods, this is one you’ll definitely want to add to your collection.

Discover University released with a roommates feature which is awesome, but this mod works a little differently and allows you to have roommates that aren’t so needy.

Note for Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Recommended Mods
Recommended Lots
Finding Roommates
Getting Rid of Roommates
Additional Tips
Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC

I’ve been playing with this mod in my current save for a little while now and spent so much time boasting about it on Tumblr that I decided to put together this little how-to-guide for those of you wanting to give it a try. I honestly don’t think I could go back to “single family” living after playing this way. Littlemssam did an awesome job at providing all of the important information regarding the mod so I just want to add a few things I picked up on during my gameplay that makes things a little easier for me.

Before you get started, you’ll need to download the Roommates mod by littlemssam as well as the (optional) but recommended mods listed below. These mods are not absolutely necessary but will help make your sim’s experience living with roommates so much better. The best part is that all of the mods listed below also help with a few other annoying things in regular gameplay too so they’re worth keeping around.

Recommended Mods:

  • MC Command Center – makes everything in the game so much better with error catching, story progression and so many other options to customize your game the way you want. Will be used in this guide
  • Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims – Grant access to rooms/houses for only the sims you want. Similar to the lock/unlock feature already in the game but so, so much better. Will be used in this guide
  • Ask to Cook/Bake/Grill/Mix Drinks – allows your sim to ask others to do the cooking for them. I sometimes use this mod with my legacy families to ask Grandma to help cook for Harvestfest or other family events
  • Choose who you Call to Meal – this one is also super helpful with this mod in particular because there will be other sims living on your lot making it difficult to call only your household/guests to meals. This mod makes that possible
  • No Gardening Club Harvesting – this one is useful if you plan to have your sims live on a lot with a large garden and form a club with their roommates (more on that later). Also worth keeping if you play with sims who are members of a gardening club.
  • Visitor Notifications – Provides a little pop up whenever someone knocks on your door. Helpful in any gameplay but especially this one where other sims are frequently roaming your lot.

Recommended Lots:

Technically, any lot with more than one bedroom could be used for a roommate living situation but I’ve listed a few below that I have in my game that I think fits perfectly with this mod:

Finding Roommates

Now that you have your sim created, lot picked out and are all moved in, you’re ready to find some roommates.

Note: Sims must be “homeless” (currently not living in world) to be eligible to become roommates so make sure they aren’t living somewhere already and if they are, move them out. Also, be sure to favorite (heart) their households in “Manage Households” so they don’t end up getting culled by the game at some point. You can have up to 20 roommates, including children and pets (as long as their owners are also roommates).

In Live Mode, have your sim call up the “LMS Roommate Service”, using their phone.

A dialog box will pop open listing all sims eligible to become roommates. If you don’t see the sim(s) you want listed, check in “Manage Households” from the Map View to make sure they are in fact “homeless”. Once your roommates are selected, you’ll get a pop up letting you know they are on the way.

In build mode, be sure to add the “Roommate Lot Trait”. This tells roommates to come back home whenever they leave for work or other activities, otherwise, your sim will have to call them back manually via their phone.

Note: Before they arrive, be sure set your sim’s door as the front door so that visitors will know which door to knock on (roommates don’t get visitors).

Once they begin arriving, lock any doors, using the pie menu from the Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims mod, that you don’t want them to have access to. In my save, I locked my sim’s door for everyone except her (this can be adjusted later on for partners, family, friends who don’t live on the lot) and locked her out of all the other houses (because things get pretty confusing when she tries to use sinks or toilets in her roommates’ spaces).

Note: Roommates will wander in and out of each other’s houses which I’m fine with cause they seem to enjoy each other’s company and on top of that, they work together to keep the place clean.

Next, assign them beds. Like I mentioned above, they will wander in and out of each other’s houses but if you assign them a bed, they’ll always sleep there whenever they’re tired. Couples can be assigned the same bed so don’t worry about any issues there.

Roommates all come with a special pie menu that your sim can use to make them take care of themselves and other things that need attention on the property:

  • Can you go and repair the broken items please?
  • You stink, please go and take a shower.
  • It is late already, you should go to sleep.
  • Go and use the toilet before you pee yourself.
  • You are on cleaning duty!
  • Cancel roommate agreement

They tend to do really well in the self-care department but I did have one sim wait a little too long to go to the bathroom so just know the options are there in case you need them.

Getting Rid of Roommates:

If things aren’t working out as well as you’d hope, you can cancel the roommate agreement at any time via your sim’s phone (quickest way to get rid of everyone) or the roommate’s pie menu directly on the sim.


Here are a few things I learned during my gameplay that can help you out when playing with this mod:

  • Clubs are the perfect way to get free labor – I had my sim form a club with all of her roommates where the primary tasks are cleaning, gardening, repairing and friendly interactions (so they can get to know each other easier). I usually start a gathering once a day while my sim is performing her work tasks (don’t judge me, we have promotions to earn!) and they take care of everything except her house since I keep the door locked. If your lot has a large garden, I recommend downloading the No Gardening Club Harvesting mod because they will harvest your produce and there’s no way to get it back!
  • Sometimes roommates get lost – Sometimes, when my sim leaves the lot for an extended period of time, like 24 hours, roommates don’t respawn. Upon returning to the lot, I typically wait a few hours to see if they show up. If they don’t, just cancel the roommate agreement and set up a new one. Sometimes when you cancel the agreement the game will automatically move them into empty households. If you try to set up a new agreement and you don’t see them listed as available sims, then this is probably what happened. Just evict them from their new houses then try again.
  • Double rent – Roommates pay you $500 rent every Friday. If you have a married couple living on the lot, they will each pay $500. Not sure about children but the same happened when I had a dog living on the property. Guess, he was responsible for his own room and board, lol.
  • Bills may get more expensive – Large lots like this one are extremely expensive and even with each roommate paying rent, your sim will still end up paying the bulk of it, so I use MC Command Center to adjust the percentage of the bills to make things more affordable. To find out how to do this, see below:

Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC:

Click any computer on any lot to bring up the “MC Command Center” pie menu and click “MCCC Settings”

Click “Money Settings” then “Change Bills Percent”. This is where you can change the amount of the bills. As you can see, I set mine at -80% which brought the household bills down from close to $8000 to close to $2000. This won’t give you an exact amount for your bills but you can make a rough guesstimate as to what the outcome will be. The changes will take effect immediately and be reflected on your next week’s bills.

Note: If bills were already delivered for the week, it won’t change it. You’ll just have to pay it then wait for the next week’s bills to see the new amount.

And you’ve reached the end of this guide. I hope you found it useful!

Credits: littlemssam, manxcat, bravesim, jenba, peacemaker (for their amazing mods and builds)

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Making Wicked Whims a Little Less … Wicked

A step-by-step guide on customizing your Wicked Whims settings so that the mod isn’t so intrusive.

BEFORE YOU READ: This article contains adult content that is intended for readers 18+. Some of the links here also lead to adult websites that are inappropriate for children. Please do not proceed if you are a minor.

Note for Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

You may have heard of the mod, Wicked Whims, that offers animated sex interactions for the Sims 4. At first glance, it may seem like too much. Especially if you’ve heard stories of orgies popping off at restaurants or parents doing obscene and questionable things in front of their children, but the mod has come a long way since its release and offers so much more than just sex. Things like detailed menstrual and fertility cycles, personality archetypes and a full fledged attractiveness system like back in the good ole Sims 2 days, make this mod a must have for me.

If you’re not interested in all of the sex and nudity stuff, but would like to take advantage of the other features mentioned above, there is a way to turn that portion of the mod off, almost completely. It’ll still exist but only at your direction. This way you won’t have to worry about Father Winter getting it on with one or two of your sims at Winterfest, I mean, unless that’s what you want.

If you’re in a rush and don’t have time for the tutorial, scroll down to the bottom of this page where you can download my settings which are already done for you.

Alternatively, if you have no interest in ever using the sex or nudity stuff that comes along with this mod, Turbodriver, the creator of Wicked Whims, has released a PG-13 version of the mod called Wonderful Whims.

Not sure which mod, Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims is right for you? Check out this short article which highlights the main differences between the mods so that you can make the best decision for your game.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Downloading the Mod
Customizing the Settings
Exporting/Importing Your Settings
Recommended Mods
Additional Notes
Download my Settings

Downloading the Mod:

So to get started, you need to download and install the mod. You can find it on the official Wicked Whims site here.

*Note: The mod is the only thing you need to download. No animations are necessary unless you want them. The animations are what allows the possibility for detailed sex to happen in your game but since this post is about how to tone things down, we aren’t going to go over that.

For everyone else, unzip and place the “WickedWhimsMod” folder in your Mods folder making sure it is no more than one folder deep. Now we’re ready to start the game.

Customizing the Settings:

To make changes to the Wicked Whims Settings, you need to be in live mode, so choose any random family in the save you’re playing and load up their household.

*Note: Settings have to be reconfigured for every save so it’s important to choose the save you’re playing. Don’t worry though, once we’re done, I’ll show you how to export them so that you can easily import them for future saves.

Once you’re there, click on any available sim or spot on the ground and click the “Wicked…” option.

There are two main settings that we need to focus on, “Nudity” and “Sex”. We’ll start with Nudity. Click on “Nudity Settings”.

Click to uncheck “Naturism and Exhibitionism Switch”. This will disable sims from gaining the exhibitionism skill which is all about nudity.

Next click on “Occurrence Settings”. This is where we will turn autonomy off.

Next click to place a check mark next to “Disable Nudity Occurrences”. This disables all nudity autonomy so sims won’t randomly strip down for no reason.

Click the “x” to go back to the main Nudity Settings Screen and click “Other Settings”. Uncheck “Toilet Undressing Switch” to prevent them from removing their pants or entire outfit (depending on what they’re wearing) when they use the bathroom and “Breast Feeding Undressing Switch” to prevent female sims from removing their top + bra when breastfeeding.

Go back to the main Nudity Settings Screen again and click “Special Settings”. Uncheck “Window Peeping Switch” to prevent a special NPC sim from being generated for the sole purpose of peeping in your sims’ window. I just don’t like this so I disable it.

Now we’re all done with the Nudity Settings! Click the “x” until you get back to the main Wicked Whims Settings Screen and click “Sex Settings”. This one is fairly simple and much quicker than the nudity stuff.

Click to uncheck “Autonomy Switch” to prevent sims from autonomously engaging in sexual acts.

And that’s it!

Exporting/Importing Your Settings:

To export your settings, in the main Wicked Whims Settings screen, click “Settings Control” then “Export Current Settings”. A dialog box will pop open and allow you to name your settings. To import your settings (for other saves) follow the same steps above and click “Import Settings” and select the settings you would like to import and restart the game for the changes to take effect.

I also recommend downloading a few additional mods that helps censor a few things that you may not want to see:

Additional Notes:

Following these steps will allow you to disable autonomy for both nudity and sexual occurrences in your game but it won’t prevent other additions made to the game from showing up.

Examples include:

  • Watch porn option on the computer
  • Order sex items option on the computer (condoms/birth control/menstrual items)
  • Have sex option included as a date goal (not required to actually get a medal)
  • Have sex with … as whim
  • Phone option to terminate pregnancy

If seeing any of these things in your game bothers you, I would strongly caution against downloading this mod.

Download my Settings

These settings have all sex and nudity autonomy disabled as well as:

  • Sweating (it tends to get stuck, requiring a cheat to remove it so I keep it disabled)
  • Cum Layer Visibility
  • Peeping Tom

Things changed/customized:

  • Menstrual Cycle – On
  • Birth Control Accuracy – Perfect
  • Crab Lice – Off
  • Romance Age Restriction – Off (disables adult and teen romance)
  • NPC Sex Duration – 1 minute
  • Player Sex Duration – 15 seconds per animation (some animations have several rotations so this just keeps them from going at it for hours)

If you like these settings and wish to download:

  • First, download my settings (automatic download), unzip the folder and place the Mellindi’s_Modified_Settings_1_2021 and Exported_Settings_List files into your WickedWhimsSettings folder located with your Wicked Whims mod in your Mods Folder.
  • Next, follow the instructions for Exporting/Importing Your Settings (to import the settings) in this article and you’re good to go!

Since Wicked Whims is all about romance, well… sort of, check out my other articles about romance, relationships and pregnancy!

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4
Better Pregnancies in Sims 4

credits: turbodriver for this amazing mod!

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