Just One of Dem Days…

Impromptu photo shoot inspired by one of my all time favorite songs by Monica — Don’t Take It Personal.

I was sitting at my desk, listening to one of my 90s R&B playlists, as usual, and Monica — Don’t Take It Personal (Just One of Dem Days) came on and inspired me to make this impromptu photo shoot. Here, I imagine, she woke up, saw everything she had to do for the day and said, “Fuck that, I’m going back to bed,” lol. Guess it’s just one of dem days!

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14 Cute & Creative Date Ideas for Sims 4

A few fun date ideas along with some useful mods for your sims’ next love day!

It’s Love Day! And I thought, why not let our sims experience all the fun and romance on their Love Day just as we do with ours? Whether they choose to stay in or head out for a romantic night on the town, these simple but fun ideas will ensure that sims in relationships of all types, have a night to remember!

Some of the ideas listed here requires or recommends the use of mods and/or CC, so if you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Also, be aware that I own all of the packs (with the exception of Journey to Batuu) so many of them will be mentioned here.

1. Couple’s Massage

Sims love a good massage right? For this Love Day, instead of booking a session at the spa, have your sims do the massaging! With the Ask for a Romantic Massage mod by LittleMsSam, sims can request a massage from their date and once they’re done, return the favor. All you need is a room with a massage table and you’re good to go! These massages grant ‘very flirty’ moodlets, setting the mood for the remainder of the night. To make this date a full blown event, pair it with idea #8, #9 or both!

2. Love at the Festival

The festivals in San Myshuno provide a variety of different activities that make for great dates!

At the Spice Festival, sims can participate in the Spicy Curry Challenge together. The winner gets to take home the title and the loser gets to make the winner dinner, providing the perfect opportunity for another date. The Ask to Cook/Bake mod by LittleMsSam is perfect for this.

At the Humor and Hi-jinks Festival, sims can join either the Light or Dark sides and work together to win the big prize. At the end of the night, once the festival is over, they can travel somewhere quiet, a park maybe? And watch the fireworks they just won at the festival. This idea works really well with idea #13!

The Romance Festival is obviously perfect for dates. With everyone in a flirty mood, the entire time, the event is bound to go well! For this festival though, I think it’s nice for sims to take time to get to know each other. Find out what the other likes, what they’re interested in, if they’re even looking for a relationship. To learn so much more about sims and their interests, I recommend all of the romance and relationships mods by lumpinou and the Attractiveness System from Wicked Whims (18+) or Wonderful Whims both by turbodriver. Not sure which one is right for you? Start with this article.

GeekCon, the not so obvious choice, has so much opportunity for romance of the bold and daring variety. With a rocket ship and telescope right there on the lot, woohooing is literally just a button away!

3. Ghostly Adventure

If your sim and their date are up for something a little… different, have them meet up at a haunted house! Some say fear brings us a little closer so let’s put that theory to the test! This idea doesn’t have to be done at a house though. It can be a bar, lounge or any other lot with the ‘spooky’ lot trait. No matter which location you choose, this is bound to be a very eventful night!

4. Experimental Dinner for Two

Okay so, dinner is a pretty common choice for dates so for this super special occasion, have your sims try something new! Reserve a spot at a fancy restaurant and have them order experimental dishes. Some sims enjoy the… interesting flavors, others… not so much. Either way, this will be a great experience for you as the player to learn something new about your sims! Before they finish their meals, be sure to have them take a photo of the dish to keep as a reminder of this special night.

5. Bonfire Bonding

Bonfires aren’t just for camping. They’re great for snuggles and kisses too! Have sims roast marshmallows, hot dogs or beetles, if your sims are in to that kind of thing and cuddle up near the fire.

6. A Night of Dancing

Drinks followed by a little dancing is a date that can be done anywhere. Unfortunately, the game doesn’t have any dancing interactions for couples but with the Slow Dance mod (scroll down to ‘Slow Dance’) by sacrificial, your sims can share a nice romantic dance to their favorite love songs on the Romance station. If you prefer something a little more upbeat but your sim hasn’t reached level 5 of the Selvadoradian skill, with the Teach me the Rubasim mod by LittleMsSam, your sim can ask any Selvadorada native (or any sim that has level 5 Selvadoradian skill) to teach them the Rubasim. I could see this turning into a cute little dance class for couples.

7. Love Day Party

I know Love Day usually represents ‘romantic love’ and is therefore celebrated, between couples, but a ‘love’ themed party is a fun way to celebrate all of your sim’s loved ones. There are so many different ways to do this but my personal favorite is to put on an event at a public place, somewhere like a park, where everyone gets all dressed up in ‘traditional Love Day colors’, with a menu full of sweet treats. The entire night is spent drinking, dancing and everyone just having a great time!

8. Couple’s Yoga

A nice day of yoga is a great way to begin or end the night. Whether its done at home, the spa, the gym or the park — sims can learn more about each other’s… bodies 😁 Pair it with idea #1 for a full day of wellness and relaxation!

9. Romantic Picnic

Dinner under the stars (or on the living room floor) is a nice alternative to the usual dinner date. If you would like dinner to include bar drinks but the date location doesn’t have a bar, the Bar Bottle or Buyable Alcoholic Drinks both by aroundthesims4 serve as a great alternative. If you want sims to actually be able to eat and sit on the floor, this picnic set by imadako makes that possible. For a list of custom dishes to compliment the custom drinks listed here, check out this article full of custom recipe mods.

10. Handmade Gifts

If you own Eco Lifestyle, have your sims visit the Maker’s Space where they can craft each other handmade gifts. Once they’re done, have them surprise each other with the custom gift they made for them. Don’t forget to have your sim take a photo with their date to remember this adorable event.

11. Double Date

Double dates are also a little different for a holiday like this one but I think its great for couples who are friends with other couples. They can do things like go out to dinner, go bowling or just hangout on the beach. It doesn’t have to be this grand event, just a couple having a nice, laid back day with their best friends.

12. Romantic Stargaze

Cuddled together, watching the stars, revealing all of their dreams and wishes — sounds like a lovely night to me! With the Romantic Skygaze (scroll down to ‘Romantic Skygaze’) mod by sacrificial, sims can stargaze together and become much closer in the process. This idea would go great with idea #9!

13. Comedy Show

Comedy Clubs aren’t actually a thing in the game but if you place a microphone at any lounge, bar or restaurant and use the Auto Employees mod by LittleMsSam, a comedian will automatically spawn and put on a performance for the crowd. Have your sim and their date, grab some drinks and seat themselves in the audience to enjoy the show!

14. Ice Skating & Hot Cocoa

The winter season usually means indoor only dates but sims can still have fun outside even in the snow. With ice rinks popping up in several places throughout the worlds, there are ample opportunities for sims to get out and play. Once they’re done and ready to warm up, have them grab a cup of hot cocoa from a seasonal stall located nearby or if they would rather have the drinks at home, they can do so with these custom recipes and recipe objects: Cup of Cozy Drink Tray by RVSN, Drinkable Hot Drinks by aroundthesims4, and Hot Chocolate with Marshmallow by icy-spicy-scalpel.

I hope you enjoyed these ideas and that your sims have a fabulous Love Day! ❤

Happy Simming,

credits: littlemssam, turbodriver, lumpinou, sacrificial, imadako, aroundthesims4, icy-spicy-scalpel for their amazing content!

For more romance mods to spice up your sims’ lives, check out the articles below:

16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4
5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
Better Pregnancies in Sims 4

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Summer Pop – A Reshade Preset

A simple, bright and colorful preset suitable for gameplay and designed with black/sims of color in mind.

After upgrading to my new PC, I unintentionally started working on a new Reshade preset and came up with this one — a simple, bright and colorful preset suitable for gameplay and designed with black/sims of color in mind. Y’all seemed to really like it when I posted the WIP pictures on Tumblr so I’m sharing it now 😊

If you’re new to Reshade, check out this step-by-step guide that takes you all the way from installation to in game set up.

Unedited Photos (Just Reshade & that’s it!)

Things you should know:

  • This preset was designed with Reshade 4.8.2 but should work with any 4.0 series. The newest version of Reshade can be found here.
  • These photos were shot with the Twinkle Toes lighting mod installed during the Summer season on a clear, warm afternoon.

Installation Info:

  • You need the qUINT MXAO shader (you may have already installed this during your Reshade 4.8 installation. You can check your Shaders folder to see if you’re not sure).
  • You need Full Bloom MultiLut by @pictureamoebae. Check out this tutorial if you’re not sure how to download/install this.
  • Turn off Edge Smoothing (this preset does this for you) so that DOF will work properly.

Toggle Keys:

  • DOF: Caps Lock
  • MXAO: Num Key 4
  • Fake HDR: Num Key 9
  • MultiLut: Num Key 6

* To make the preset gameplay friendly, I recommend toggling off MXAO and DOF.


  • Many users have reported having an issue where the mouse is ultra sensitive after installing Reshade. This doesn’t have anything to do with this preset or this specific version of Reshade but is a glitch caused by a setting in Origin. To fix this, open Origin > Application Settings > Origin In Game then switch off ‘Enable Origin’ in game and your problem should be solved.
  • Let me know if you have any issues and I’ll try to get them resolved for you.


  • Don’t re-upload
  • Don’t claim as yours
  • Enjoy!

Oh, and if you use this preset in your posts please let me know @mellindi on Tumblr. I would love to see ❤

Choose your download below:

Reshade 4.8 preset | Reshade 5.2 preset | Gshade preset

Lot used in the photos is: Fruit & Ficus Restaurant by me!
*pool pictured is not included

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20 Gameplay Ideas for Family Players of Sims 4

A breakdown of some of my favorite activities that keep my sim families happy, connected and having fun!

It’s no secret that I love family gameplay. It’s what I do. I create a sim, get their life going, have them fall in love, get married, have babies — not always in this particular order — but you get the picture. So one question I get asked all the time from other simmers who also enjoy the legacy lifestyle but can’t quite figure out how to keep their sims’ lives, well, lively is what my sims actually do when I’m in game.

Sims 4, compared to its predecessors, requires a lot of imagination from the player. This makes it kinda hard to keep the motivation going especially on weekends when the whole family is home from work/school and waiting for you to give them something to do. Fortunately, I have some ideas! 20 to be exact! So keep reading for a list of fun activities to incorporate into your sims’ lives.

Some of the activities listed here requires or recommends the use of mods and/or CC, so if you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Also be aware that I own all of the packs (with the exception of Journey to Batuu) so many of them will be mentioned here.

1. Backyard Camping

Instead of traveling all the way to Granite Falls for the yearly family camping trip, pitch a tent (or two) in the backyard and have a little camping adventure right at your sims’ house! Grab some snacks, a radio, maybe even a few books and make it a memorable night with the family. If your sims happen to own a fire pit (or you hop in buy mode to get one for them real quick) they can roast hot dogs or marshmallows and tell a few ghost stories to get everyone in the campfire spirit.

Packs needed: Base Game, Outdoor Retreat

2. Lemonade Sale

So it’s Summer time and the kids are bored at home with nothing to do. On top of that, they’ve been begging for an allowance but their parents are not trying to hear it. Well fortunately for them, they have the opportunity to make their own money by running a lemonade stand! With this Lemonade mod by icy-spicy-scalpel, kids (or any other sim, teen-elder) can set up and run a lemonade stand just like they do on TV!

*If you really want the ability to give your sim kiddies allowance, check out the Allowance Mod by ScarletsMods. I personally use this one for my gameplay and I love it.

Packs needed: Base Game, City Living

3. Picnic in the Park

Pack up your family, some BLTs or veggie burgers and head to the park for a family picnic! After a full afternoon of play, have your family settle in for lunch using this picnic set by imadako. With cushions and shirts that function as chairs, your sims can enjoy the rest of their outing relaxing in the grass together. This set also comes with a custom drink tray which has options like: hot coffee, hot tea, cold water, cold juice and other various mixtures. For pre-lunch activities, your sims can participate in things like: playing on the playground equipment for kids and toddlers, basketball and chess for everyone!

Packs needed: Base Game, Backyard Stuff (for drink tray functionality)

4. Sunday Dinner with the Grandparents

Once my sims’ develop a schedule and have their routines down pat, I’m super guilty of neglecting the rest of the family. Days and days (which are like years in sim time) can go by before I even realize that its been a good minute since we’ve seen Grandma or Grandpa. If you’re guilty of this too, scheduling Sunday Dinners with extended family is a perfect way for everyone to keep in touch and get that much needed family time together. If you have Seasons installed, you can even place the dinner on the calendar as a non-goaled dinner party so that you and your sims don’t forget. Unless your sims have the ‘Always Welcome’ reward trait or you’re using a mod like, More Welcome (scroll down to ‘morewelcome’) by bienchen83, that prevents normal activities like cooking and sleeping from being perceived as inappropriate, I suggest having your sims prepare the dinner at their house and take it with them to Grandma’s. However, if you truly want the ‘made by grandma experience’, you can download Ask to Cook for Me by LittleMsSam which allows your sim to ask any other sim to cook a meal for them. This is very useful when you want to serve a meal that’s higher than your sim’s skill level.

Packs needed: Base Game, Seasons (for calendar functionality)

5. Sleepover

Sleepovers are a great way to keep the party going way into the night! Now, the sleepover mechanics in the game are a little wonky with sims almost never actually going to sleep or sneaking out before the night is over but with the Memorable Events Mod (one of my personal favorites) by kawaiistacie, sleepover guests will actually stay the full night and even participate in a few sleepover style activities. Have your child sim invite a few friends over to watch movies, dance, pull pranks, gossip, pillow fight (yes, that’s an actual interaction that comes with the mod) all night! Also perfect for adult sims who want to spend the night partying with friends or woohooing cuddling with their significant other.

Packs needed: Base Game

6. Class Field Trip

A perfect opportunity for a full day of education! Have your child or teen sim and at least one parent, take the day off of school/work and spend the day at an educational facility. This could be a museum, art gallery, library, park, basically anywhere learning can take place! This is another activity where the Memorable Events mod comes in handy but can also be pulled off without it. If you choose to use the mod, teachers and other students will automatically spawn at the location of the field trip for the parent and student sim to socialize with. If you don’t use the mod, just be sure to invite out other sims to the field trip location to simulate an actual field trip. And don’t forget to pack a lunch!

Packs needed: Base Game, Parenthood (for sack lunch capability)

7. D.I.Y. After School Club

Child and teen sims that aren’t into drama and wouldn’t be caught dead in a scouts uniform — still need something to do after school — but those, unfortunately, are the only two after school activities we have, meaning you’re out of options, right? Wrong! You can create your own using the club feature from Get Together! With your child’s interests in mind, create a club with or without requirements (like age, trait, skill, etc…), add a few friends or other sims within their age group, set a location, some club activities and you’re good to go! In my personal gameplay, (using this method) my teen, who has the genius and geek traits, is apart of the school’s S.T.E.M. program where they meet three times a week at the neighborhood library aka the ‘S.T.E.M. Academy’ and focus on building logic, rocket science and programming skills. For extra customization, I recommend using the More Club and Holiday Icons mod by Zerbu which adds additional icons (all extracted from the game) to the club icon chooser menu.

Packs needed: Base Game, Get Together

8. Bowling + Pizza Night

Bowling makes for a fun night — especially for sims a little on the competitive side. At the bowling alley, sims (kids-elder) can challenge each other to a few rounds of bowling with the winner announced at the end of the the game. Like most other skills in Sims 4, your sims will get better overtime and even learn some cool trick shots to show off in front of their friends. Once the game is over, treat the family to pizza! A whole pizza isn’t actually served at any of the community lots in the game so the easiest way to make this happen would be to 1) have a sim order a pizza before leaving the house and bring it with them in their inventory or 2) have a sim bake a pizza using one of the custom pizza recipes, which currently includes, Buffalo Pizza and Three Cheese Pizza, from the Grannie’s Recipe Book by LittlBowBub and bring it with them in their inventory.

To make this outing more enjoyable, I also recommend, the More Fun Stuff mod by LittleMsSam that allows sims to gain social and fun while bowling with each other.

Packs needed: Base Game, Bowling Stuff

9. Farmer’s Market

This one’s perfect for your country or off-the-grid living sims. Just plop a sales table down at the park and fill it up with your sim’s fresh baked goods. Things like bread loaves, cakes, muffins even roasted turkey dinners can be sold for a profit. You can also sell produce from the garden. Couple this with Idea #2 (Lemonade Sale) to get the whole family involved.

To start a sale, drag the items you would like to sell from your sim’s inventory to the sales table then click ‘Stock Table’. The items will then spawn on the table. Click the table to set the markup price amount (if you want to increase your earning possibility) followed by ‘Tend Table’ then ‘Start Street Sale’. For best results, place the table in areas that are crowded. It takes a while but customers will show up eventually.

Packs needed: Base Game, City Living (for the sale’s table)

10. Day at the Beach

A day at the beach is a great way to unwind and have some fun during the summer season! Toddler sims can play in the water, build sand castles and play in the sand while the older family members can enjoy swimming, sunbathing, riding on jet skis, combing for beach shells and all the other activities the beach has to offer. Idea #3 (Picnic in the Park) also works great on beaches and are a perfect way to end the day.

Packs needed: Base Game, Island Living

11. School Trip Abroad

Vacations are a perfect way for sims to explore and learn about other cultures and a school trip abroad is a great way to facilitate that. Send a few teen sims (with or without an adult) or a few child sims accompanied by an adult to the destination of your choice. Have them rent a housing unit suitable for the number of sims in the group then send them out exploring. Let them experience the local cuisine and participate in cultural events. Have them take photos and write in their journals to document their experience. When they return home, they can tell their parents all about the trip!

Packs needed: Base Game, Outdoor Retreat, Jungle Adventure, Island Living or Snowy Escape — Depending on the destination

12. Seasonal Festivals

One thing I reeeeaaaaallllly miss from Sims 3 are the festivals that came around every season. Sims 4, unfortunately, does not have seasonal festivals but that doesn’t mean you can’t create your own! These Seasonal Festival lots by Moonlightowl-es have everything you need to throw your own festival each season. To have these festivals become a permanent part of your sim’s lives, add them as holidays to the household calendar. On the day of the festival have your family and a group of friends travel to the festival lot for a day (or night) of fun activities. This is another activity where the Memorable Events mod comes in handy as it allows you to throw ‘Seasonal Parties’ which are perfect for this kind of event.

Packs needed: Base Game, Seasons

13. Movie Night

Pop some popcorn, dim the lights and gather around the TV for a movie night! If the weather permits (and your sims can afford it, *coughs* motherlode) place a projector screen in the backyard for a change of scenery that I’m sure your sims will appreciate. Teen sims might also enjoy snuggling up with their crush while watching the premier of College Cram, during movie night at the park. To make this event even more special and unlock some cute interactions, plan a ‘Movie Night’ using the Memorable Events mod.

Packs needed: Base Game, Movie Hangout

14. Painting/Arts + Crafts Class

The Arts Center provides the perfect atmosphere for families to let go and fully embrace their creative talents! Kids can use the activity table to draw original works of art or make seasonal crafts and adults can try their hand at painting. Sims of all ages can work on their musical skills using any of the instruments available at the facility. To finish off the outing, sims can enjoy lunch together at one of the marketstalls located right in the Arts Quarter, if playing in San Myshuno. If playing in any other world, a marketstall of your choice can be placed right on the property. I recommend the Free Staff mod by LittleMsSam to make hiring a vendor free (also works for baristas, chefs and bartenders) or the Auto Employees mod also by LittleMsSam that automatically spawns employees on the property as soon as you arrive.

Packs needed: Base Game, City Living

15. Karaoke Competition

Sims with high singing skills deserve the opportunity to showcase their talents to the world! And this is exactly what the karaoke competition is for! Have your family head out to the karaoke bar on Tuesday, Thursday or Sunday nights to support the family star as they sing their heart out for the title and cash prize! Just be sure to make it there by 8pm to enter the competition.

FYI. Karaoke competitions aren’t locked to San Myshuno and are automatically held at any karaoke bar in any world on the above mentioned nights.

Packs needed: Base Game, City Living

16. Family Yoga Class

This one is more for adult sims with teen children since kids can’t use the yoga mats but a yoga class is a great way for families to bond while increasing their wellness and fitness skills. Have the family head down to the gym or spa (ones that include yoga mats) to participate in this event. If the weather is nice and your sims would prefer outdoor classes instead, place an instructor’s yoga mat along with a few regular yoga mats at any park and a yoga instructor will spawn automatically and host classes every 30 sim minutes.

Packs needed: Base Game, Spa Day

17. Ultimate Gaming Competition

The arcade is the perfect place for this kind of event! Geek sims (or non-geek sims) and their friends can gather at the local arcade and put their gaming skills to the test. Order a few snacks from the bar and play a few rounds to see who’s the real ultimate gaming champ!

Packs needed: Base Game

18. Family Reunion Celebration

One of my favorite things about playing a legacy is getting to see sims across different generations meet up and interact with each other. When caught up in the day to day though, with jobs and school and aspiration stuff, it’s easy to forget to take time out to have the entire family spend time together. To make this a regular thing that all sims can look forward to, add this special event to the calendar. Each season, have all members of your sim family spend time together doing something different. Whether it be an egg hunt in the Spring, vacation to Sulani in the Summer, family bonfire in the Fall or snowboarding in Mr. Komorebi in the Winter, your sims will appreciate bonding with each other throughout every season.

Packs needed: Base Game, Seasons (for calendar functionality)

19. Family Adventure in the Jungle

When you think of an adventure in the jungle, I’m pretty sure the first thing that comes to mind are adults, right? Well, did you know that kids can go on adventures too and are actually pretty useful? Finding hidden treasures in dig and other excavation sites is where they really shine and can help take some of the pressure off the parents who are hard at work clearing paths or solving puzzles. At the end of the trip, with personal and household inventories full of riches, your family of archaeologists will be proud of all that they accomplished together, as a family.

Packs needed: Base Game, Jungle Adventures

20. Backyard BBQ

Backyard BBQs are one of my favorite and one of the easiest summer activities for my sims! There’s barely any set up and it’s a perfect opportunity for bonding with family and friends. Just throw some burgers on the grill, play some music on the outdoor radio and place a few water activities such as: a water balloon bucket (for water balloon fights), water slide, pool or sprinklers and invite over friends and/or extended family. To make this a permanent event in your sim’s lives, make this day a holiday and add it to the household calendar. For even more fun (if space allows) place a dance floor and have sims challenge each other to a dance competition. Sims will enjoy watching and cheering on their favorite.

Packs needed: Base Game, Backyard Stuff, Seasons

And that’s it for now! What are some of your favorite family activities for your game? Let me know in the comments!

Happy Simming,

credits: icy-spicy-scalpel, bienchen83, imadako, kawaiistacie, zerbu, littlemssam, bienchen83, littlbowbub, moonlightowl-es, scarletsmods

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Mod Recommendations

Must Have Mods for Sims 4 Parenthood

A breakdown of some mods that are must haves for the Sims 4 Parenthood.

Parenthood is one of my favorite game packs but like all packs, there’s always something I wish there was a little more or a little less of. The mods in this article help tone down or get rid of a lot of annoying things introduced with the pack as well as add new gameplay or cosmetic changes. As a bonus, I threw in a short tutorial for enabling child support payments with MC Command Center.

Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches so always check the creator’s website for updates.

* Parenthood pack may be required for these mods *

Make Less Mess/Clean Less Mess by Miss Puff

Ever feel like the kids and toddlers in game are constantly making messes? Like they just break out of whatever interaction they were performing just to go make a random mess? Or worse, to clean up the mess they just made for absolutely no reason at all? Well this mod helps with that by changing the autonomy of the “Make a Mess” and “Clean Up Mess” interactions making them occur less often. With this mod installed, the likelihood of messes being made or cleaned up will also be influenced by trait, mood and character value level.

Chores by littlemssam

This mod makes the bulletin board that comes with the pack useful for more than just obsessively hanging drawings and leaving notes by adding cleaning schedules for members of your sims’ household. Great for teaching your sim kids responsibility or large households which are notorious for staying dirty.

Lunchbox Replacement by aroundthesims4

Tired of brown sack lunches and want your sims to carry their leftovers in something a little more stylish instead? Well with this mod, you can choose between three super cute lunchboxes that will override the sack lunches in game. Styles include: plastic Tupperware container, kids lunchbox and dabba/canister. This is a default replacement which means it will override all lunchboxes in game. Be sure to read the directions before downloading.

* scroll down to the last three options towards the bottom of the page *

School Project is Fun for Some by littlemssam

This is a really simple mod that makes school projects a little more fun for sims based on their grade in school. As you can probably guess, A students receive a large boost to their fun motive and D and F students receive no boost at all.

No More School Project Box by Nova JY

If you and your sims happen to hate school projects no matter how fun they promise to be, this mod gets rid of them for you.

No Autonomous Set Table by littlemssam

If your sims have requested not to have fancy table settings during meals but the kids in the house refuse to listen, this mod should cure them of their mustsetthetableitis.

Parenting Skill for Teens and More by littlemssam

Ever heard the saying, it takes a village to raise a child? Well, I believe this is absolutely true and I also believe that the village should also earn parenting skills from taking care of those children. With this mod, other family members such as grandparents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles and step-siblings can all earn parenting skills when caring for and disciplining children. Also unlocks the parenting skill for teens too!

Faster Gain and Lose Character Values by Diffevair

If you tend to play on shorter or longer lifespans, this mod might be useful in helping your child and teen sims earn as many positive (or negative) character values before aging up.

No Ask for Advice — Parenthood by PolarBearSims

When you play large households, the constant need for advice can be a little overwhelming at times. With this mod, child and teen sims will no longer ask for advice unless directed to do so by you.

Lower Threshold for Parenthood Traits by tyjokr

Feel like it’s way too easy to raise well-mannered, empathetic, responsible kids? Well this mod makes it a lot easier to fall into the threshold for negative character value traits and ultimately makes you and the sim parent work a little harder to raise good kids.

No Change into Bear Costume by PolarBearSims

Okay so, I am NOT a fan of that bear costume, like at all, lol. If you feel the same way, this mod might be great for you. It prevents child sims from autonomously changing into the costume but unfortunately does not get rid of the negative moodlet that comes from not wearing it during the Bear Phase.

Bear Phase Tweak by Bienchen 83

With this mod the Bear Phase is gone! Well, not really but it’s way more bearable (lol) because with this mod, child sims will change into either a princess or pirate costume instead of those ugly bear suits. There’s two flavors; one that removes the sad moodlet completely (if they don’t wear the costume) and another that keeps the sad moodlet but weakens its intensity.

* scroll down to or search for “bearphasetweak” *

Clingy Childhood Phase Tweak by Bienchen 83

This mod prevents child sims who are going through the Clingy Phase from becoming tense from being around their siblings, grandparents or close friends.

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Granny’s Super Soup by Bienchen 83

I’ve mentioned a few times how much I love food mods so it’s probably easy to guess that this one is one of my favorites. It transforms the Minestrone recipe into a special super soup that can help fight colds and pimples and can only be prepared by sims with at least level 5 parenting skill. Also requires the Dine Out game pack.

* scroll down to or search for “grannyssupersoup” *

Parenthood Food Retexture by Utopia Sims

Check out this article for HD food retextures for all Sims 4 packs as well as custom foods your sims will love!

Parents deserve a little love and romance too, right? And if there’s parenthood, there’s a good chance pregnancy’s happening somewhere too so check out my other articles for mods all about romance and pregnancy:

5 Must Have Mods for Realistic Relationships in Sims 4
16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4
Better Pregnancies in Sims 4

Enable Child Support with MC Command Center

So this has nothing to do with the Parenthood game pack but since this post is pretty much about parents and parenting, I thought I’d throw this one in there too. So MC Command Center has this really cool feature that allows parents of child sims to collect child support from the non-custodial parent (parent the child does not live with). It happens automatically and applies to all households in the world where there are children living with only one parent.

To activate this feature: Click on any computer in any sim household from live view and select MC Command Center from the pie menu:

Next select MCCC Settings.

Then Money Settings > Pay Child Support.
This determines if an additional amount will be added to the active household’s weekly bills for each child they have that does not live with them.

Select the “value” or status of the custodial parent (parent the child lives with) for child support earnings/payments to occur. Options are:
A = All
M = Married Only
U = Unmarried Only
N = None

Next, select Back then Child Support Percent.

Enter the percentage of your choice. The default is 1% and takes into account the non-custodial parent’s total worth which includes lot value plus total funds. You can choose a number between 1%-1000%. I would aim for something realistic like 3%-10% just to be safe.

And that’s it! I hope you find the mods and suggestions listed here helpful!

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16 Mods for Better Romance & Relationships in Sims 4

A breakdown of some of my favorite mods that enhance the romance in relationships for Sims 4.

One thing I–and a lot of other simmers–feel is lacking in the game, is romance and fun in relationships. After playing for a while, things start to get real repetitive and real boring. I mean, they can only flirt, embrace, kiss, woohoo so many times before I’m ready to move on. If you’re finding yourself stuck in a state of my-sims-need-spice-in-their-lives too, read on for some awesome mod suggestions.

Note for beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

Before downloading any mods, be sure to read the full download post and follow all directions specified by the creator. Mods tend to “break” after patches so always check the creator’s website for updates.

Click the mod’s name for the link.

Wicked Whims Attractiveness System (18+) by turbodriver

This is hands down one of the most exciting mods out there, IMO. The attractiveness feature gives each sim their own very detailed preferences ranging from: physical details like hair and eye color, body type, even thigh and butt size–if that’s your kind of thing; and non-physical details like personality type. With this mod, sims can find the sim of their dreams all on their own and it’s fantastic.

If you’re interested in this feature of the mod, but not all the other stuff, check out, Making Wicked Whims A Little Less … Wicked, to learn how to customize the settings and turn off most of the sexual parts of the mod or download Wonderful Whims, which is basically a PG-13 version of this mod.

Not sure which mod is right for you? Check out Wicked Whims or Wonderful Whims, Which is Right for You?

SimDa Dating App by littlemssam

Ever wish your sims could expand their dating pool a little? See who else is out there besides the few sims that show up at the bar every night, or that one sim that seems to work at every food stall in every world every single day? Well, this mod’s got you covered. From blind dates to one-night-stands, your sim will have more options than they know what to do with. There’s even an add-on for Wicked Whims for those of you who want some really … really fun hook ups.

Improved Relationships – Cheating & Consequences by zero’s sims 4 mods

Okay so, this one doesn’t necessarily improve romances–it does the exact opposite–because instead of letting sims get away with flirting and messing around with other sims, it provides real consequences for those who decide to stray from their relationship. Sims who are caught cheating can apologize, explain the situation, blame the other sim, and even blame their partner. Sims who were cheated on can confront their partner, confront the other sim, forgive their partner or instead fight them. Could you imagine? I can!

MC Woohoo by deaderpool

MC Command Center is amazing, we all know this–a literal godsend to this game–but did you know that there is an MC Woohoo and that it does for your sims’ woohoo life what MC Command Center does for the rest of the game? With risky woohoo, no strings woohoo (woohoo friends), birth control options, even a full-blown woohoo skill, this mod has so, so much to offer.

Slice of Life Mod by kawaiistacie

This mod does a lot of different things that add interesting and unexpected events to the game. For the purpose of this article though, I’m just going to point out the Memory System which allows sims to finally have memories–real memories–that have a huge impact on their mood. Things like: marriage, divorce, first kiss, first woohoo, being cheated on, and break-ups will actually affect their day-to-day lives. There’s also a Drunk system that allows sims to make questionable woohoo choices such as: drunk woohoo and risky woohoo.

Pillow Talk After Woohoo by shimrod101

This mod just replaces the roll over and sleep or jump straight out of bed animation that usually plays after woohoo with a cute and cuddly one instead. Great for gameplay photos!

Ask For A Romantic Massage by littlemssam

If your sim just so happens to have a massage table conveniently located in their house, they can ask for a romantic massage from a love interest. Perfect for a date night at home and will put each sim in a strong, flirty mood.

Looking for ways to spice up your sims’ dating lives? I’ve got your covered:

Passionate Romance by sacrificial

This mod adds romantic interactions to the game that are super cute to watch play out between sims who are all in lurve. Goose (from Sims 2), romantic hug and romantic selfie are just a few that are included. Install this mod before the Romance Festival and watch all the couples get all snuggly during the event. It’s so cute!

Slow Dance by sacrificial

Adds a slow dance interaction, which is so needed for weddings or dates or any occasion where sims are enjoying slow music with their significant other.

Romantic Stargaze by sacrifical

Adds a romantic stargaze interaction for couples who like to snuggle while watching the stars. Sounds like a great ending to a sweet picnic date or a night at the beach to me.

Autonomous Proposals by polarbearsims

Enables the option for autonomous proposals, making it possible for NPCs to ask your sim for their hand in marriage. MC Command Center also has this option that you can toggle on, so this mod is not needed if you play with it.

Autonomous Weddings by polarbearsims

Enables the option for autonomous weddings, making it possible for sims to marry autonomously either at a wedding arch or by eloping. Perfect if even you want to be surprised when the lovebirds tie the knot.

Risky Woohoo by polarbearsims

So this mod makes any and all woohoo risky–meaning unplanned pregnancies are almost always possible. It also includes cool things like fertility levels for sims. I know this doesn’t contribute to romance per se, but I can definitely see a one-night-stand turned unplanned pregnancy turned life long lovers–or not–kind of situation stemming from this. Makes for a pretty interesting story!

Love Email Tweak by bienchen83

When your sim sends a love email to a sim of interest, this mod makes it possible for them to be asked out on a date by their crush.

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Less Jealous by bienchen83

If you’ve ever played a sim with the Jealous trait, you’ve probably noticed it can be a bit extreme at times, and that they are often tense because of negative thoughts regarding what their partner is probably–but more than likely not–doing behind their back. This mod tones that down some so that they are more likely to be reassured by their partner’s presence.

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MC Command Center by deaderpool

MC Command Center comes up every time I recommend mods because it really does that much. In the case of romance and relationships, it controls all story progression with NPC relationships. Because of this mod, they can get married, have kids, cheat, have kids outside of their relationship, break up, and move out without any involvement from you. It also allows you to turn off the random flirting that happens naturally in the game if you find that kind of thing annoying.

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Episode 91: Guests

A Few Hours Later
Downtown San Myshuno | San Myshuno

One thing Salim was really good with was Camilla and making her feel things — good things — especially when her mood was anything but positive. When she was stuck in that cycle of discouragement and self-doubt, he always had the right combination of words to get her back on track, right where she needed to be. Another thing he was just as good with was taking tough discussions and making them feel easy — like casual conversations almost — while somehow still managing to get his point across and them to some kind of understanding. It was because of this special skill set of his, that they were done talking about the responsibility-secret-keeping thing, done making up, done showering, done making up again — and out the house in under two and a half hours.

The drive Downtown though — wasn’t as easy. The roads were flooded with cars and traffic moved at a snail’s pace. It was just as bad at the baby store too. Lines wrapped around the registers, customers, strollers, shopping carts at every single turn — basically your typical last minute holiday shopping chaos.

It was like every San Myshuno resident was out getting gifts for their kids or other people’s kids, probably buying everything they could think of in hopes of giving them the best Winterfest possible. It’s what Salim wanted for the girls too — the best first Winterfest possible and now that gifts were out the way, there was just one more thing he needed to make that happen — he just had to run it by Camilla first …

Salim: So you know how Winterfest falls on our day, right?
Camilla: Yeah- they’re still coming, aren’t they?
Salim: Yeah, of course … but I was wondering though … how do you feel about sharing the day with Aahana?

Their arrangement for the girls was pretty simple. They lived with Aahana during the week and with Salim and Camilla on the weekends. Holidays were different though — something they agreed to discuss as they came up. The first one was spent with Aahana, leaving him free to go to Brindleton Bay with Camilla, but the next one — the biggest one — just happened to fall on his day and even though it was his time, and they had just spent the whole week with their mom, he didn’t want her to miss out on such a huge event in their lives.

Camilla: You mean like half the day with us and the other half with her?
Salim: [shakes head] No, I mean, everybody at our house.
Camilla: … Okay … that’s fine, we can … do that …

But he also didn’t want Camilla to feel uncomfortable in her own house and if her demeanor was any indication of how she was really feeling — she wasn’t okay with it.

Salim, dismissive: You know what- we can just figure something else out- just … forget I brought it up-
Camilla: No, it’s fine, really. It’s their first Winterfest so she should be there … I know she doesn’t want to miss it.
Salim: You sure? Cause I understand if you’re not really up for it.

She wasn’t … really sure how she felt about it. Her relationship, for lack of better words, with Aahana was okay, but that was because they were in separate cities, only communicating briefly about the girls during pick ups and drop offs. Spending an entire day together though — existing in the same space for an unspecified amount of time — was a whole different story and even though they settled their differences that day at the hospital, she still didn’t know what to expect.

Camilla: [smiles] I’m sure. I want her to come. It’s just one more person anyway so it’ll be fine.
Salim: [kisses her forehead] So what can I do for you since you’re doing this for me?
Camilla: [smiles widely] Well, I do have a Winterfest wish-list for Sephora I can send you or would you rather the H&M one? Actually, [points ahead] Bath and Body Works is right over there we can just-
Salim: [laughs] No, see I already got your gift so we’re done shopping for a good while.
Camilla, excited: What did you get me? Is that what you were looking for in the mail today?
Salim: You want to talk about what you got in the mail today or you want to wait for Winterfest to find out?
Camilla: … I’ll … wait for Winterfest.
Salim: [laughs] That’s what I thought.

Later that Evening
Salim & Camilla’s Townhouse | San Myshuno

One quick call to Aahana and just as Salim predicted — she was on board with the whole Winterfest thing — even offered to bring a dish or drinks or something. What he didn’t see in that prediction though was a call from Nura — not even 30 minutes later — wanting to know why she hadn’t received an invitation to this Winterfest event being hosted by him and the mystery woman whom she still had yet to meet.

Admittedly, he was keeping Nura away — just until he was sure she could behave herself — that she wouldn’t use meeting Camilla as an opportunity to run her off in hopes of pushing him and Aahana back together. So far though, she was doing good. Not one mention of marriage or her idea of family or anything since the girls were born. Maybe she was ready …

Salim: Come here [pulls her over]. I want to ask you something else.
Camilla: Okay.

Salim: So … you know what we talked about earlier with Winterfest and Aahana, right?
Camilla, hesitant: … Yeah?
Salim: How do you feel … about … one more guest?
Camilla: … Okay … who?
Salim: My mom.
Camilla: Oh …

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Camilla & Salim III

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Episode 89: False Confidence

Two Days Later
Webot Home Office | San Myshuno

Twenty-two applications, a few loaves of bread and a batch of cookies later, Camilla finally got a call back from a potential employer. It wasn’t just any employer though, it was the employer of all employers, it was Webot — one of the largest technology companies in the world. They were headquartered in San Myshuno but had offices everywhere from Willow Creek to Windenburg, even Sulani. They were behind so many things — big things — like one of the most popular computer operating systems, a super successful social media platform even the number one video streaming site online. To top it off, they were all about employee happiness which was obvious by their amazing reviews and according to a few of them, the San Myshuno office was state-of-the-art and even had designated café areas in every department so no one was ever without coffee. THEY WERE NEVER WITHOUT COFFEE.

It was everything she ever wanted in a job and the place she always saw herself working. She even still had the t-shirt she got from one of their career events she attended during her senior year in high school. It was one of the reasons she chose San Myshuno for her fresh start in the first place, before she got distracted, and now — out of all the programmers in the city — they wanted to interview her.

She was beyond thrilled — but the butterflies fluttering around in her stomach, weren’t from the excitement of maybe having a personal barista on stand-by. It wasn’t the idea of possibly taking on a huge new role at such an important company, that had her stomach in knots either. It was the reminder of everything else that depended on it — everything she needed to fix, depended on her getting this job.

She knew she was the perfect candidate though. Her programming skills were on point and one of the few things about herself that she was absolutely confident in. She even had a degree in computer science and ten months of on-the-job experience to back them up — but still, she had only been on two other job interviews in her entire life — one that didn’t go so well and another that was more of a formality, and was terrified of bombing again. Even after binge-watching every single interview prep video she could find on online, she still didn’t feel ready — but they were ready for her.

Receptionist: [smiles and waves] Camilla?
Camilla: [breathes deeply] Yes?
Receptionist: Sofia’s ready for you.

As she followed the receptionist back to the large corner office where Sofia Martinez, the Director of Software Development, was waiting for her, she quickly went over the answers to a few of the questions she practiced the night before, trying to predict what she would ask first. According to most of the videos she watched, interviewers usually started off with something safe. Questions about your interests or where you’re from — glorified small talk.

Sofia: So, I see you went to college in [glances at her resume] Brindleton Bay. Is that where you’re from?

Seems they were right …

Camilla: [nods] Yes, I lived there my whole life.
Sofia, playful: Oh you’re far away from home girl. From your family, your friends. How does your parents feel about that?
Camilla: They were … apprehensive [laughs] at first, but I’ve been here for almost a year now so it’s growing on them.
Sofia: [smiles] Well that’s good to hear. Having a strong support system is so important, especially for us girls out here doing big things.

Next, they move on to more important things — job related things — like your skills and experience, basically try to see if you’re a good fit for the position-

Sofia: So tell me about your experience with your last job. Describe a few of your projects for me.

Perfect. Talking about work was fun for her — really brought out her inner nerd and allowed her to relax — which was great for situations like these.

Camilla: [details the various projects she completed at the agency]

Then, they give you a chance to ask questions, see if you’ve done your research, find out if you’re really interested in the job or if you’re just looking for a paycheck. This was the last chance to really impress them.

Sofia: So do you have any questions for me?

She did. Just one. One she was sure would really win her over.

Camilla: I do. Something I’ve been wondering since I found out I was meeting you.
Sofia: Okay, I’m listening.
Camilla: How does it feel being the first woman of color to take on the Director of Software Development title before even turning 40?

Sofia’s face lit up.

Sofia, impressed: So you’ve been doing your homework, I see [smiles widely]. I like that.
Camilla: [smiles confidently] I have.

They chatted for a while longer about tech stuff, being working women, their favorite lunch spots — completely off course of the interview. According to the videos — this was it. The part where the interview was over and she would find out the next step in the hiring process. Sofia was clearly impressed by her experience and seemed to take a liking to her personality too. Camilla really had high hopes she would walk away with good news.

As their conversation came to a close, she waited for some sort of confirmation. Something to let her know the job was hers. She was nervous coming in but right then — at that moment — she was confident. Confident that she was about to become Webot’s newest software developer and that all of her problems were about to be solved, but then Sofia asked a question that wasn’t covered in the videos and caught her completely off guard.

Sofia: You didn’t mention it before but what brought you all the way to San Myshuno?
Camilla: Um …

She did not want to go into how she walked in on her boyfriend and her best friend going at it right after graduation and how after she couldn’t take being in the same place with them anymore she took all the money she had saved up and hopped on the first flight to the furthest city she could think of but — they were getting along so well and she didn’t want to risk getting caught in a lie, so she told a half-truth instead.

Camilla: Well, I had some … stuff … going on back home and just really needed a fresh start and … San Myshuno seemed like the place to do it.
Sofia: So did you have a plan or at least a job lined up first?
Camilla: … No but … I did start working at the agency after a few weeks … and now … I’m here …
Sofia, in disbelief: So you just ran away from your problems instead of trying to solve them? Uprooted your life with no kind of direction or anything?

Yes. But that was past her. Past her would run from her problems but present her wouldn’t. Present her was all about fixing things. Not running.

Camilla: I didn’t run from them … I just needed to … start over.
Sofia: Hmm … This makes me wonder how you’ll handle issues here. When you’re confronted with a problem, are you going to stay and fight or are you going to just up and quit?
Camilla: [shakes head] No, I wouldn’t- I would figure it out. I wouldn’t just- I wouldn’t quit.
Sofia: [sighs] You sound really sure about that.
Camilla: [nods] I am.
Sofia: Mhm. Well, thanks for coming in, Camilla. We’ll be in touch.

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You Can Have Roommates in Sims 4?!

A step-by-step tutorial on how to use the Roommate Mod by LittleMsSam.

Yes! Yes you can! With a mod anyway and if you’re anything like me and love playing with mods, this is one you’ll definitely want to add to your collection.

Discover University released with a roommates feature which is awesome, but this mod works a little differently and allows you to have roommates that aren’t so needy.

Note for Beginners: If you’re new to installing custom content, check out this step-by-step guide.

For easier reading, jump to the desired section using the links below:

Recommended Mods
Recommended Lots
Finding Roommates
Getting Rid of Roommates
Additional Tips
Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC

I’ve been playing with this mod in my current save for a little while now and spent so much time boasting about it on Tumblr that I decided to put together this little how-to-guide for those of you wanting to give it a try. I honestly don’t think I could go back to “single family” living after playing this way. Littlemssam did an awesome job at providing all of the important information regarding the mod so I just want to add a few things I picked up on during my gameplay that makes things a little easier for me.

Before you get started, you’ll need to download the Roommates mod by littlemssam as well as the (optional) but recommended mods listed below. These mods are not absolutely necessary but will help make your sim’s experience living with roommates so much better. The best part is that all of the mods listed below also help with a few other annoying things in regular gameplay too so they’re worth keeping around.

Recommended Mods:

  • MC Command Center – makes everything in the game so much better with error catching, story progression and so many other options to customize your game the way you want. Will be used in this guide
  • Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims – Grant access to rooms/houses for only the sims you want. Similar to the lock/unlock feature already in the game but so, so much better. Will be used in this guide
  • Ask to Cook/Bake/Grill/Mix Drinks – allows your sim to ask others to do the cooking for them. I sometimes use this mod with my legacy families to ask Grandma to help cook for Harvestfest or other family events
  • Choose who you Call to Meal – this one is also super helpful with this mod in particular because there will be other sims living on your lot making it difficult to call only your household/guests to meals. This mod makes that possible
  • No Gardening Club Harvesting – this one is useful if you plan to have your sims live on a lot with a large garden and form a club with their roommates (more on that later). Also worth keeping if you play with sims who are members of a gardening club.
  • Visitor Notifications – Provides a little pop up whenever someone knocks on your door. Helpful in any gameplay but especially this one where other sims are frequently roaming your lot.

Recommended Lots:

Technically, any lot with more than one bedroom could be used for a roommate living situation but I’ve listed a few below that I have in my game that I think fits perfectly with this mod:

Finding Roommates

Now that you have your sim created, lot picked out and are all moved in, you’re ready to find some roommates.

Note: Sims must be “homeless” (currently not living in world) to be eligible to become roommates so make sure they aren’t living somewhere already and if they are, move them out. Also, be sure to favorite (heart) their households in “Manage Households” so they don’t end up getting culled by the game at some point. You can have up to 20 roommates, including children and pets (as long as their owners are also roommates).

In Live Mode, have your sim call up the “LMS Roommate Service”, using their phone.

A dialog box will pop open listing all sims eligible to become roommates. If you don’t see the sim(s) you want listed, check in “Manage Households” from the Map View to make sure they are in fact “homeless”. Once your roommates are selected, you’ll get a pop up letting you know they are on the way.

In build mode, be sure to add the “Roommate Lot Trait”. This tells roommates to come back home whenever they leave for work or other activities, otherwise, your sim will have to call them back manually via their phone.

Note: Before they arrive, be sure set your sim’s door as the front door so that visitors will know which door to knock on (roommates don’t get visitors).

Once they begin arriving, lock any doors, using the pie menu from the Unlock/Lock Doors for Chosen Sims mod, that you don’t want them to have access to. In my save, I locked my sim’s door for everyone except her (this can be adjusted later on for partners, family, friends who don’t live on the lot) and locked her out of all the other houses (because things get pretty confusing when she tries to use sinks or toilets in her roommates’ spaces).

Note: Roommates will wander in and out of each other’s houses which I’m fine with cause they seem to enjoy each other’s company and on top of that, they work together to keep the place clean.

Next, assign them beds. Like I mentioned above, they will wander in and out of each other’s houses but if you assign them a bed, they’ll always sleep there whenever they’re tired. Couples can be assigned the same bed so don’t worry about any issues there.

Roommates all come with a special pie menu that your sim can use to make them take care of themselves and other things that need attention on the property:

  • Can you go and repair the broken items please?
  • You stink, please go and take a shower.
  • It is late already, you should go to sleep.
  • Go and use the toilet before you pee yourself.
  • You are on cleaning duty!
  • Cancel roommate agreement

They tend to do really well in the self-care department but I did have one sim wait a little too long to go to the bathroom so just know the options are there in case you need them.

Getting Rid of Roommates:

If things aren’t working out as well as you’d hope, you can cancel the roommate agreement at any time via your sim’s phone (quickest way to get rid of everyone) or the roommate’s pie menu directly on the sim.


Here are a few things I learned during my gameplay that can help you out when playing with this mod:

  • Clubs are the perfect way to get free labor – I had my sim form a club with all of her roommates where the primary tasks are cleaning, gardening, repairing and friendly interactions (so they can get to know each other easier). I usually start a gathering once a day while my sim is performing her work tasks (don’t judge me, we have promotions to earn!) and they take care of everything except her house since I keep the door locked. If your lot has a large garden, I recommend downloading the No Gardening Club Harvesting mod because they will harvest your produce and there’s no way to get it back!
  • Sometimes roommates get lost – Sometimes, when my sim leaves the lot for an extended period of time, like 24 hours, roommates don’t respawn. Upon returning to the lot, I typically wait a few hours to see if they show up. If they don’t, just cancel the roommate agreement and set up a new one. Sometimes when you cancel the agreement the game will automatically move them into empty households. If you try to set up a new agreement and you don’t see them listed as available sims, then this is probably what happened. Just evict them from their new houses then try again.
  • Double rent – Roommates pay you $500 rent every Friday. If you have a married couple living on the lot, they will each pay $500. Not sure about children but the same happened when I had a dog living on the property. Guess, he was responsible for his own room and board, lol.
  • Bills may get more expensive – Large lots like this one are extremely expensive and even with each roommate paying rent, your sim will still end up paying the bulk of it, so I use MC Command Center to adjust the percentage of the bills to make things more affordable. To find out how to do this, see below:

Adjusting Bills Percentage with MCCC:

Click any computer on any lot to bring up the “MC Command Center” pie menu and click “MCCC Settings”

Click “Money Settings” then “Change Bills Percent”. This is where you can change the amount of the bills. As you can see, I set mine at -80% which brought the household bills down from close to $8000 to close to $2000. This won’t give you an exact amount for your bills but you can make a rough guesstimate as to what the outcome will be. The changes will take effect immediately and be reflected on your next week’s bills.

Note: If bills were already delivered for the week, it won’t change it. You’ll just have to pay it then wait for the next week’s bills to see the new amount.

And you’ve reached the end of this guide. I hope you found it useful!

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